Has anyone had a family member die while pregnant? Did it affect name choice?

[CathyS]

I have just had my partner's Father die this week (Carlo was 84). I am wondering if anyone has had a death in the family while they have been pregnant and thinking of naming the baby after them in some way?

If it's a girl, I am thinking of Carla. But for a boy, I"m not sure I am in love with the name Carlo (though as a middle name I like it). What do you think of Carlo for a boy's name?

I had my ultrasound on may 9th, but they couldn't tell me the sex of the baby. It had it's legs crossed. I will go for a 3d/4d scan on march 13 though. Seems forever away though.

[Pandora]

I know 3 women who had a parent pass away whilst they were pregnant.
The two that have since had their babies both used the parents name as a middle name.
The other bub is still baking.

ETA I like Carlo but with a K

[Inanna]

Me! My DH's grandmother passed the day I discovered I was pregnant with DD6. Consequently she was named Lucy Philomena after her great grandmother.

I like Carlo - I had a boyfriend Carlo who made the best paella - Oh MY that takes me back.... But I do like the name!

[CathyS]

I love the name Lucy!

It's nice to hear a positive opinion on the name Carlo. I wonder if it's too old fashioned or italian sounding. Though this baby is half italian and will have an italian surname lol. (Carlo, 84 was born in Rome, though my partner is Aussie born italian).

[Pandora]

Is your daughters name pronounced the Italian was of the Aussie way?
I think Carlo/a would fit nicely with your other kids ames if you like it.

[CathyS]

Laura is pronounced the aussie way. Though I know in Italy it is more like "Louwra" (trying to type how they sound it out).

Not keen on K for Karlo...if i were to name him that, I'd give him the same spelling.

So....Yasmin, Ronan, Laura and Carlo or Carla. Though I still have to speak to my partner about it....and he may or may not be keen on that idea. I think he'd probably push for the name though... If I'm really not happy, I'll have the middle name at least. I need time to think about it. And by march 13 I SHOULD know the sex of the baby..as long as I can tell the sex at those 3d scans (i'll be 29 weeks then).

[LimeSlice]

I think if it isnt a name you really like in itself, then use it as a middle name. That way you are honouring hte person you wish to honour, but you can have name that is your baby's alone, and you love

My thoughts are with you, your partner and family at this difficult time
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy

[krisp]

My Dad passed away when I was 20 weeks pregnant with my DS, in fact it was the day before we found out we were having a boy. The last time I saw Dad alive he kissed me and said "How's my Grandson?".
Needless to say my DS middle name is John which is my Dad's name.

[kitten76]

Krisp, How beautiful. Ive got tears in my eyes. Your little boy was meant to be.

[Deejoy17]

DH`s father passed away on a scuba driving accident (a boat his him) 4 days before my 1st DS was born so we changed his middle name to include FIl`s name, he also has my Dad`s name as a middle name so it`s nice that he carries both grandfather`s names.

Hugs to you, it`s a very hard time.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

My son has for his first middle name the name of both my grandfathers and my dad's middle name. And the name of a few uncles and great-uncles. It's because it's a family name, although most of the men with this name believe he is named for them. It has made my dad happy I named DS for his late father and Grandad happy that I've named DS for him.

I just wonder if anyone has named their child for a family member who is not yet dead? Not because you expect them to be soonish but just to honour a living family member. (In our case it was to honour various generations and -more importantly to me- to tie DS in to my family as we don't have my maiden name.)

[CathyS]

I had actually thought to name the baby's middle name Carlo even before his Dad got ill.

I had a good chat tonight with Alby and he actually brought up the subject of using Carlo for a boy's name if the baby is a boy. I told him my thoughts about perhaps being reminded too much or taking away something his Dad...and he agreed. We will use it as a middle name if the baby is a boy.

I mentioned Carla also..but he does not like the name for a girl. Something about it reminding him of the lady in the tv show Cheers lol.

So....the names hunt will continue. Something that flows with Carlo for a middle name. For a girl though...no idea.

Alby seems a little better today. Though he still has so much to organise. He says the funeral will be this saturday at noon.