Ashlea, When I found out I was pregnant I was stressing too. The only time I vomited during pregnancy was when I found out I was pregnant. My face dropped with fear, and I had no close family who had current knowledge of pregnancy.
When I stress I plan things out so I feel more confident. I also watch discovery health on pay TV which has a show on labour and another on taking home baby. They would help first time mums heaps.
Oh bless you!!! You sound just like me when I fell pregnant at 19!!! If there was anything I didn't like that I read, I cried!!!!!!!!!! Stressed over everything!!!
Now, if you don't want your mum there then don't!!! Explain to her that you feel that way at the moment, your not sure what you will be like in labor but you will call for her if you need her, maybe she can wait at your house or somewhere near the hospital so she is available, reassure her she will get regular updates and that you love her heaps and is isn't personal. My mum was at my first birth but I didn't want her at my second, she really wanted to be there but I just went 'off' the idea and wanted myself and my DH present and she was fine with it!!
Well I think if you are thinking about a Birth Attendant, you would definitely benefit from it, it may help you relax and enjoy your pregnancy if you have someone to bounce ideas off. I must admit that I am biased as I am training to be a Doula (birth attendant), they cant tell you what to do, but they can give you the information and the confidence to make the decisions for yourself about what is best for you, your partner and your baby, they can help you have the birth you want, they are there only for you and your partner to support you before, during and after labor. Where are you located? If money is an issue then look at having a Student Doula, they often offer their service for free or a reduced rate, that is what I am doing now.
Take a deep breath it is normal to have a billion thoughts running through your head, it will just happen in the end, remember it is a natural part of life and there is no right or wrong way to give birth!!
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