Hi there!
Sorry to hear you are having so much trouble!
I am a large person too.... probably a lot bigger than you.
I have been told at my first m/w app that they have to get me to talk to someone (sorry can't remember who?) about my weight isues and to do with the hospitals equipment...... Cos I'm so big that some of it might not be able to take me!!
It's not a nice or easy thing to hear.
To be sent off for an 'emergency' ultrasound just because doppler didnt pick up heart beat ... that to me sounds a little over the top on ur docs behalf.
At 20w, I had a doppler and no heartbeat was picked up.... I nor the doc was worried at all... I can;t imagine that they are accurate all the time!!
I wasn't sent for an emergency u/s... it happens to many people and not necessarily us bigger girls!!
I wouldn't stress too much mate
If you are 'over the limit' for cesearian at ur particular hopst, they should be able to organise something for you without making you feel like crap!
I dont really think it should be left up to you to find out about other hospitals.... ur GP or midwife should have an idea and be able to tell you about it.
I have spoken on sites to so many 'overweight' people and their pregnancies and births have gone without a hitch.
Please try not to stress! I know thats hard... but during pregnancy, the last thing you should have to worry about is your weight!!
People can be so insensitive!
I'm due a few weeks before you, so I'll let you know how I get on! I'm sure you'll be able to rest easy after that
good luck, best wishes, and dont stress on your weight!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



Nicky