I understand where u r coming from as i have been afraid ,mostly of the pain,everytime but this time i'm determined not to b.I am trying to b calm & relaxed & enjoy the ride.Being scared & panicking will increase the pain so maybe try some relaxation techniques or some yoga or just some deep breathing & imagining yourself somewhere u love that is calm & happy.Some soft ,soothing music might help as well.
Trust yourself & believe in ur own ability as a strong & capable woman to birth ur little one.This is what i am learning & trying to apply this time round.
For eg: yesterday i had some terrible pains,they were really scary but instead of panicking & crying which is what i'd normally do i just breatheed depply & tried to remain calm & relaxed as much as possible & thought positive thoughts & eventually they went away & it was ok.
Work out ur birth plan & discuss everything with ur partner b4 hand & organise someone like a close friend or relative that can come & b with u if ur partner can't possibly get there straight away.
I hope this is some help to u,good luck & try not to stress