We found out with DS because I hate not knowing things and for DP made it seem more real for him. This time round I made the decision not to find out, to see if its a better surprise at the end or just the same at 20wks...I always saw it as its a surprise no matter when you find out. A lot of our family didn't want to know (didn't stop them trying to get it out of me throughout my whole pregnancy though). DP really wanted to find out this time but since he said this is the last baby I stood my ground and said no I want a surprise at the end and as much as its nearly killing me not knowing, the pregnancy has gone really quickly and its fun guessing and hearing what other people think your having.

I agree with either both know or neither, it would be too hard to keep a secret like that...I wouldn't be able to!

GL with you decision!!