Hi Emma

I didn't look online until this morning and only just read all of your posts...

Firstly, Abby is a beautiful name - it was one I put down on my list too! I hope one day Lucy and Abby can meet!

I had a little cry for how this must feel for you and Tim, and what you must be going through. I'm not surprised to hear you can't imagine losing her. She's a little person all of her own, despite her possible challenges. And you're right, we all have those.

Whatever decision you make I'm sure it will be the right one for you and your family. I don't know anyone with a Downs child, but when I used to live in Coffs Harbour I made friends with a lovely lady in her 30s who had Downs and lived in a unit on her own, had a job in a sheltered workshop, a boyfriend and a very active life. She could read and write, not to an advanced level, but pretty well, and was such a great person. I guess all I'm trying to say is that a label never works for an individual...

My thoughts and prayers are with you, Tim and Abby. Whatever you decide, you have been blessed to have her in your lives and no one can take that away from you.

Thinking of you...

Jennifer