We found out, told everyone and then once we decided on the name, told them that too. It ended my stoopid MIL's constant comments about us having a boy and then shut her up from wanting us to use her name as our DD's name. Those weren't the only benefits - but were good! Also put a stop to all and sundry who constantly told me I must be having a boy because I carried small and all out in front.

On the plus side, when we found we were having a girl, some beautiful friends (the husband of whom we asked to be DD's godfather) sent us a dozen red roses to congratulate us on expecting a girl. It was also a huge bonus for DP, who really wanted a girl. It was like we got to celebrate both her impending arrival and then her birth.

Getting ready for her and knowing we only had to choose a girl's name (we had no end of trouble deciding!) were also pluses.

She was the first grandchild (both sides) and our first child. I don't think we could have spoiled the surprise at finally meeting her whatever we chose to do. Each to their own though!