Are you telling people the gender?

[Cass72]

well as we already have 4 boys it is only natural that people were going to ask us and to be honest I am so pleased that I dont mind screaming it fromt he roof tops.

However number 4 was a different story. I think people almost went into mourning for us and the looks of sympathy and sadness were pretty hard to deal with.
I had a few days of it myself coming to terms with another boy but soon realised that he was healthy and that was all that mattered at the end of the day and besides we couldnt change it!
But looks comments and expressions made it alot harder so I stopped telling people in the end. I had complete strangers telling me oh its ok you can try again and I hated it.
Its up to you, If you want it to be a secret so be it. They can like it or lump it!

How can people assume you are disappointed? My FIL asked outright last night (he stayed at our place last night and couldn't help but notice that the nursery is definately made up for a boy) if we were disappointed about having a boy [DH has a son and a daughter and I have a son]. I said so what's so special about girls? How can we possibly be disappointed - he's perfect! The funniest comment was from my SIL when she said, oh you should have a girl. Um, okay, so I can just choose what gender my baby will be or can we change it at this late stage????? Go figure - people are weird!

I'm glad we aren't telling people - presuming my FIL can keep his trap shut.

UPDATE: Okay, so FIL obviously can't keep his trap shut!! DH was speaking with SIL last night who said, "oh dad said you're having a boy" (and some "are you disappointed questions"). She will by now have told the rest of DH's family. I rang my mum to have a whinge who told me that it doesn't matter and try not to let it worry me, but she did agree that he had no right to tell our secret.