Oh, hun, son't be scared! Really birth isn't that bad! And honestly it's often the frame of mind you are in which can make it or break it. With my first birth I was so unprepared for it and having never done it, I was unsure and unconfident in myself. Having gone into hossy with a little (I mean tiny) amount of amniotic fluid leaking and ending up being admitted and having my baby the next day by induction. I was really unprepared and nervous and didn't come to terms with things, ended up being in labour for almost 24hrs and pushing for 3hrs!! I have gas and 2 pethadine shots because things went for so long and I hadn't mentally prepared myself to be in labour then at all let alone for so long.
My second birth, I had pretty bad prelabour for about a week, I was in serious labour for I don't even know how long cause I was just trying to go with it all, plus I had a wonderful doula helping me through it all. I went to hospital the day I gave birth to get some panadeine forte to try to sleep a bit and the midwife checked me and I was 8cm dilated! I wasn't in pain at all at that stage, though had had some serious contractions for several hours. I had laboured BY MYSELF (DH was at a soccer game!) and had managed on my own, having baths, using heat packs etc... to releive my pains. My birth was beautiful and perfect and I had no painrelief at all. My DS was born a few hours afer admission and after the midwife broke my waters. This time I was completely prepared and ready to birth, hence the huge difference in births. It is great to be prepared for the what if's, but go into it positive!
If I have another bub, I will be confident in myself and know I can do it, on my own if need be!
Be confident women are meant to birth babies and you CAN do it!