Just goes to show that our perceptions are often moulded by our beliefs.

Nowhere have I said that my OB has pressured me into anything. He knows ME. He knows MY history. He knows that my last child was delivered in slightly under 20 minutes, that I now live at least 40 minutes drive from the hospital plus whatever time I need to organise my two children here and my Mum to care for them, and am terrified that I will deliver in the car. He knows that my trip to hospital at midnight last week left me completely shattered emotionally. He knows that my fears of losing this baby are sky high. He knows that I don't want an induction if it can be avoided, but that I am smart enough to know the risks and that I am smart enough to understand that sometimes my mental and emotional health is more important than getting the spontaneous labour I would choose in better circumstances, or an ideal world.

This is an OB who saw me during my last pregnancy when I was 41+1 and said "see you in a week" because he saw no need to do anything other than let nature take its course. He is not high intervention. He is high care. He knows that what I want is to go into spontaneous labour, have a lovely slow build up to allow me to get to hospital on time, and then deliver naturally, drug free as I did last time under his care, and that's what he wants too. Fortunately for me, he also wants me to actually stay sane throughout the process and so provides options when I tell him that its all geting too much for me. His comment about breaking my membranes if I end up in hospital again is to reassure me that whatever happens it will be ok (I asked for an induction last week and he agreed to do it for me, but also told me all the reasons why I should hang out longer if I could. One of those apparently mystical OBs who doesn't reach for a scalpel or a drip at a moment's notice. So his remark about not "letting" me go home next time was not said as a threat that hey, you'd better get it right next time or else I'm taking over.

Maybe I should have been far more detailed in my original post and included a whole heap more of my personal history as I've now done. I thought it was enough to say hey, I've got a great OB. Lucky me.