Hi Gracie,

I'm so sorry about your Mum, how proud she would have been of you and how much she would have loved this. There's something about becoming a mum that really makes you appreciate your own mum. Birth can often spark a fresh layer of grieving for a recently passed dear one. I wonder if this thread might help you? (it might make you cry too) - about a woman who lost her dad just days after she gave birth.

It's a Safe Place

I was 30 when I had my first, too. My mother was 10,000 miles away at the time. I wonder if hiring a doula might be an idea, to support both you and dp? That's one of the ways they describe doula care - "mothering the mother". (That appealed to me at the time because I really felt like I had a deficit of nurturing mothering as I approached birth).

Nothing/no one can replace a special loved one, but I have found though, that when life brings kindly people into my life, it's like those who are watching over me are smiling and saying, "I'm glad that lovely person is there for you at this time."