Thankyou all so much for your replies, I really appreciate it. To be honest, this isn't the first time he's hurt me. It started 6 months into our relationship (there was one incident in that year), but started full-tilt when I became pregnant. I also kissed someone else and confessed to him just before I became pregnant, so my guess is that it was the combination of both of these factors that created a context for the abuse - though my feeling is that it would've happened eventually anyway. I don't think I'll ever forgive myself for letting him do this to me while I was pregnant and putting my daughter at risk, but it's in the past and I can't change it now.

Right now I live with my parents (And i'm planning to stay here since it's much easier in many ways than living alone), so I'm safer than I would be otherwise, though he knows what hours they work and i'm worried he'll hassle me. Luckily he doesn't really have his own transport and the only place he could stay (Aside from his undrivable car) is in the hills (I'm in West Aus), so chances are he won't be bothering me.

thanks again everyone *hugs*