We used to alternate with our parents when we were little, each year we had x-mas lunch with say Dad's family and the next yr Mums but what they did was EVERY x-mas morning we ALL had breakfast together and then went our separate ways from there.

As your DD is a little younger maybe you could suggest a dinner on x-mas Eve as a regular thing for your XP's family?

If he doesn't seem at all interested then just plan your day and do whatever special things you want to do, i would suggest trying to organise it now though so your the bigger person and down the track he can't say you didn't try!

GL Hun i hope he takes the time to make an effort for your gorgeous girl, in the long run if he doesn't it's him missing out!