Thanks everyone for your replies xx
i tried to approach the xmas topic with him monday, by talking about it and saying how excited i was about xmas this yr etc.. and asked if him n his mum mum wanted to come see grace get her xmas santa photos hes like yeh that would be gd, mum would love that. and theni said if you wanted we could go xmas shopping too if you wanted . he just said im not real big on xmas.. not real big on giving gifts etc... i just left it at that and said im really big on xmas its my favourite time of year

i think its sad hes being so selfish how ould you not be excited its DD first christmas oh well ill make it great and special for her

im just going ask his mum next time i see her if she wants us to drop in to her place on xmas day b4 we go to my families place wat do you think?