trillian - yep, my parents split up when i was 12 and my Dad was and is a jack ass too, I just ant believe XH is acting so much like him

rachel - thanks for acknowledging that XH is a knob, gave me a nice giggle

mistree - i think my XH is taking it as a guilt trip too

flowerchild - thanks for the hugs and love x

kim - thanks for the confidence boost hun x (and yep he is a MAJOR tool!)

inertia - i am sorry your kids have had to experience such a cr@ppy father, sounds like you have done wonderfully in life since leaving him, your kids are so lucky to have a new loving and caring Dad. I refuse to speak ill of XH in front of Archie, I know how much that hurts, my Dad did it when Mum divorced him.

lara - thanks for the hugs x I am quite sure that Karma will bite him on the bum when Arch gets to an age where he realises what his Dad is really like

The response I got from the text message was complete hatred. I dropped Archie off to him that next day and XH wouldn't look at me, he just grunted! About half hour before I left I told him Arch had a poo nappy (Arch has had a red raw bum this week), when I left half an hour later Archie was still playing in the backyard with his pooey nappy on!!! XH would have been not changing the nappy to punish me???WTF! I HATE him, how dare he treat my son like this!

Also when I left XH tol me that Arch needs to be picked up from his house at 2pm tomorrow. XH lives an hour away and he expects me to drive the whole way to pick DS up....I dont think so, I think meeting half way will be much more fair to everyone. XH will keep up even more of a stink when I disobey him tomorrow. Gosh, we are separaated and he wtill think he has control over me?

I think there is definately a very rocky road ahead for me where XH is concerned, I just hope like anything that XH doesn't bad mouth me in front of Arch and that he stops using Archie t punish me