Oh Neen, I am sorry that you are going through this
I can even understand why you don't want to go on with everything you have been going through....
But the reality is that you have a beautiful little girl and another on the way and these are the things you need to be focusing on, to keep you putting one foot in front of the other. As Lulu said is there a mother and baby unit you can stay at? or a refuge? can DOCS equivalent offer any assitance? see the local salvo army people and ask them all if they know of any other organisation who might be able to help you.
Darl, this is some pretty heavy stuff you're dealing with so don't feel silly for feeling scared. Anyone would be feeling ovewhelmed, confused and daunted in your situation.
I do agree with Divvy - if the police won't drop the charges, it must be pretty serious. Please take care of yourself, NOT him and perhaps firstly, get some counselling for yourself. I know it won't happen straight away, but one day you will realise that you deserve much better than that.
Secondly, there's been some great advice on here about support networks. I know it's hard to motivate yourself when you're feeling down - is there anyone who could make some phone calls for you. Perhaps as a first step, call Lifeline and see what they have to say.
Do you see a Maternal Child and Health nurse? Maybe you can make an emergency appointment, and they can direct you somewhere that can give you some much needed support, even your gp can help.
Everyone, including yourself and your children deserve to live a safe and happy life.
Please, please, please, please seek out some help, you deserve it and your daughter deserves it too. You are worth so so much more than this.
I agree with all the other girls, hun, you are going through so much atm, please do not be hard on yourself, it is perfectly normal and understandable for you to be feeling this way. You are a strong person and you will get through this. Please realise that you and your babies are worth so much better than thisxx
You've been given some great advice hun and you really do need to get the focus back on you and DD for now and worry about all the other stuff later. If you dont have a lot of help from those around you - go and look for it, find someone who can help you find accommodation (considering your circumstances for needing it, this should be easier to access kwim ) and get you set up.
And dont concern yourself about him not being able to be at the birth - if he's already in prison for what he did to you, then it must have been bad and he gives up any right he had to be a part of something so precious, something that should be shared between loving partners. I know it will be tough and so emotional for you, but again, the focus has to be on you and this baby OK?
With the newborn/toddler stuff and how you will cope with that, you're putting a newborn into the situation now, with D the age she is and still being dependent on you, still doing all the stuff she's doing now, but when this baby is born, she will be a lot older, a lot more capable of doing stuff for herself. She's a pretty switched on little girl already and I'm sure that she will transition fine for you once the baby comes.
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