You've been given some great advice hun and you really do need to get the focus back on you and DD for now and worry about all the other stuff later. If you dont have a lot of help from those around you - go and look for it, find someone who can help you find accommodation (considering your circumstances for needing it, this should be easier to access kwim ) and get you set up.

And dont concern yourself about him not being able to be at the birth - if he's already in prison for what he did to you, then it must have been bad and he gives up any right he had to be a part of something so precious, something that should be shared between loving partners. I know it will be tough and so emotional for you, but again, the focus has to be on you and this baby OK?

With the newborn/toddler stuff and how you will cope with that, you're putting a newborn into the situation now, with D the age she is and still being dependent on you, still doing all the stuff she's doing now, but when this baby is born, she will be a lot older, a lot more capable of doing stuff for herself. She's a pretty switched on little girl already and I'm sure that she will transition fine for you once the baby comes.