Thanks for all the responses!

I think what it really comes down to is that I am scared that her life will feel incomplete if she doesn't know her Dad. It's not so much about me going so they can meet her, but more to try and bridge that geographical gap so that when it's fathers day and shes at school and the kids are making cards for their dads, shes not the little girl left feeling sad and confused about why she doesn't know her dad.

It's not that i'm trying to force this relationship between them, I just figure that if he's keen to be involved and it will make her feel more whole, maybe i'm a bad mum if I don't provide that opportunity for her. God knows if i leave it up to XP, whether his intentions are good or not, they wont meet any time soon.

It's definitely not him or his family i'd be making the trip for, it's my girl, and it would break my heart if she felt any pain, loss or abandonment at not having her Dad in her life.