Pregnant and single. Should I move abroad?

[Visitor8]

it can be really tough. Sometimes the fathers just don't get it hey Ashtons father wasn't interested until he was 4 months old so I know how horrible it is to go through the whole thing on your own. Noone to share the kicks, the U/S pics, but you get to bond with your baby in a way that I never thought was possible with Ashton.

If I were in your situation I would leave it for now. Try to reconnect with him for the sake of the child once bub is born. If he isn't interested, and you think you can do it then I say go for it.

A new baby can be really tough, especially with no support. I've been there and I ended up moving closer to support.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do

[Tecopa]

Hey

I am very similar to you and love travelling - even just got back from Hawaii where I was off by myself having a blast at 5-6 months pregnant! Got a few strange looks thats for sure!

It sounds a little like you're worried about how your life will change and are hoping that moving overseas again will make you happier. But really - has all the moving you've done so far found you a spot you ARE happy to settle in or are you still just looking?

A practical step is to look at what giving birth and raising a kid in a country will be like. I have my green card, so could have stayed in the US but with no insurance birth would have cost $7000-22 000 easily. Ouch. Then no support after birth.

Then look at things like flying restrictions and insurance - I could get travel insurance to 24 weeks and no further and most airlines have cut off dates for travel.

I've decided that I do have to just settle close to family now and have this child at home, for the sake of both of us! But to sooth the fear that I'll never travel again or that my life is "over" I've just started a travel list of places that are kid friendly or that I think would be great to show a child. I mean imagine seeing the pyramids by youself - that's pretty fun. Now imagine holding you son's (in my case) hand when he's five or so and seeing the look on his face when HE sees the pyramids.

Life will change but the travel and adventure will always be there and I think it's pretty hard to keep hunting for your happiness right now. Be near your family and focus on getting your issues sorted first is my advice.

[newmummy85]

Thanks so much for your advice.

I think travel will always be a part of my life, but to travel with my daughter when she's a bit older would also be an amazing experience. I have done it on my own and it can be great, but also lonely.

I love Edinburgh (which is where baby's dad lives) and when I was there I hoped I would live there forever, but circumstances just don't allow for that, not with my ex and I together anyway.

Here's hoping that the future holds some great adventures for this mother/daughter duo!