Its really nice to hear of positive situations where shared parenting has worked out. I have no doubts that my ex is great with our son, its how he goes about it, his level of anger, pot smoking etc is the problem.
When we do the changeovers we always have a chat and a play together with our son, one thing we have agreed upon is not to argue infront of our son. Also in the current parenting orders we have a clause which states we can not talk badly of the other parent or allow other people to do so in the company of our child.
Hopefull over time the stress and tension will ease, we haven't been separated for long and he still has a lot of anger towards me, eg in the settlement I got one of the cars, which he still refers to as his car, he let me have it etc..... Anyway the drama of life.... Thanks for the advice ie trusting..