catrionalee - I've heard a bit about if they're self employed there's ways to get out of it. That would be horrible! I don't even understand why men don't pay.. Don't they want to support their child and give them the best?
Luckily my ex generally looks out for Ruben. The way he speaks to me sometimes though.. aarrgh! He's quite nasty, also very pigheaded. He's one of those 'never wrong' types.