Oh hunny I hope you're ok! It's funny (not really) but you, me and Emma seem to be in very similar situations. You are doing the right thing in not giving in to him anymore but you have to expect some arguments to come from it. He has been used to things happening a certain way for a long time and now you're changing the rules and he's going to be put out by that. I'm not saying it's not a good thing what you're oding but in a way you have been facilitating his selfishness for 7 years and he's not going to be happy withh you changing that.

Don't feel awful about the man DH is because people can change but they have to be willing to try. Maybe once you have left and he realises what he is missing then he will go to councelling? I hope so, if you both want to get back together and I think from your other posts you do.

It seems to me that you both really need some time and space away from each other to reassess (sp?) what it is you both want.

Good luck hon HTH