I don't really get why it's okay to make people wait etc? I don't understand. I would just send them to her if she needs them and then put it to bed. If she has behaved badly - I get that it's upsetting but it's no skin off anyone's nose if she has the certificates and she can get on her way. I think you are using up your precious gorgeous energy wondering - it always feels good to help someone else out.

Or, photocopy them and have a jp sign the photocopy to authorise it's from the original and send a few copies to her if it's important to you both to have these certificates.

It is a costly exercise and also takes time to apply to BDM.