I think I have no choice but to go through the system. I dont think its fair on my child to just say oh I dont know who the daddy is when I do. My child has a right to know and I think he needs someone in there arguing for him and his rights. I agree that it is important to be honest with my son from the start. What really annoys me is that his whole argument is now based on I chose to be in this situation, I chose who I wanted to be with and he's chosing who he wants to be with. I said that its great that he has a gf and wants to settle down. Being with him never was a choice. The only choice he gave me was to have an abortion or to never talk to him again. I chose my baby as I knew that I had a beautiful, perfectly formed, healthy foetus in my tummy who had a heart that was beating all on its own and I did not feel that it was my right to take that away from him. Now I have the most beautiful boy in the whole universe who is happy and loves to laugh who makes friends easily and had daycare begging me to put him in more days because they love him and his little laugh so much.