Moving....but dont know which way to go! need an outsiders opinion :)
So we have just over 3 weeks to move......the lease on this house runs out on the 5/04/11. sorry if this is all over the place, i am a little stressed and have NO IDEA which way to move
Ok DH has been working away on and off for nearly 4 yrs and right now he is working back in central QLD and i am in beaudesert, he works nearly 1000 klms away but he has a great roster, he works 7 on and then 7 off which is awesome.
So here is the problem, i want to move to where he is working, rent is cheap but the house is "post war" and is very very old and yukky!!! BUT thats ok, i would live in a tent if it meant we were together again, like a normal family. i can turn anything into a home
The school would be smaller so dd would get alot of help and wouldnt "slip through the cracks" like she has since moving here. BUT its such a little town there is NOTHING there, but thats ok as long as we are a family and together, thats all that matters! we would save money living together, no flights or fuel money to come home, no more massive phone bills from calling each other all the time, plus the rent there is so cheap!
BUT
DD and DH want us to go to the beach to live, the rent is around the same as what we are paying now, but its a brand new house, 4 bed,2 bath very very nice house, plus there is the beach, shopping centres, cinemas, friends that live around the area and has more to offer BUT it means we would still be living apart and thats what i struggle with most of the time! i miss him so dearly and hate being alone. but he would only be just over 3 hrs away, but still apart.
all of my very close friends have said " move to the beach" and so is dd & dh....seems i am the only one " feeling stuck" with which way to go i just miss him so much and hate living apart so very much
help!! what would you do?
my instincts is " we are a family and we should stick together"
or am i being a sook and need to suck it up and go to the good house in the good area and just get over the fact that we are apart
To be honest I would move with DH I dont know how I could libe apart from DH for weeks on end we like each others company so much, but if its working then its up to you. Have you discussed this with DH I know the beach sounds great but you wouldnt be living there all the time and there will be times that you need your DH company. The beach isnt everything. You have to think of the family until itself rather than move just because the area is better does your DD miss her dad and most of all do you miss him maybe list all the pros and cons of both moves and then discuss it as a family and think of all the money you could save to do things as a family when he isnt working.
good luck with your decision I hope my comment helps
I think the decision it made, i want to be with my dh every night, the last few years has been so hard without him and everytime he goes back to work i always cry! i am sick of crying, i am sick of being alone, i am sick of missing him, i am sick of having to defend for myself, i am sick of being mummy, daddy, protector, fixer and running this whole house and family on my own! i am a married woman but most of the time i feel like a single mum
i am moving to where he is
thank you for your kind words they have helped heaps!
its very hard being alone
everyone kept telling me " it will get better as time goes on " ........yeah no!! it hasnt gotten any easier it breaks my heart everytime he has to go back!! DD misses him heaps to but she is sort of use to it IYKWIM, he has been doing it for so long that it doesnt really affect her that much.......plus she loves sleeping in mums bed when dads at work lol
i just needed to hear from someone that moving to a s*itty little town "is ok" and that dd will be fine, with the small school and nothing to do in the town! i grew up in a small town and it was that bad! plus on dh days off we can go to the beach
I was going to say I would move to DH too. Missing DH and Daddy is different to missing friends/shopping centres/the beach... You get the idea. If your heart says to be with him, then that is the right thing to do. And especially if you feel that DD would benefit from being in a smaller school too.
Good luck with getting everything moved! And you wouldn't really be alone, you've got all of us here on BB!
And moving to a s**tty little town and run down house is okay too. DD will have a ball, and you will all enjoy going to the beach together as a family.
Last edited by Netix; March 9th, 2011 at 11:34 AM.
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move where Nath is personally not sure where he is working but no way I could live away from jase even if it was 7 on 7 off....we considered it briefly when work was talkign about doing this and he asked if I'd want to put a house on the block at agnes I was like no way...I need to be with you
go move with Nath, you know in your heart its the right thing, maybe when lttle girl is in highschool move to the beach but for now go be with nath
rach i am trying to move to springsure......just applied for the ONLY house that is up for rent....and she rang me to say its been filled
i have been ringing and hounding the realestate out there for WEEKS now, trying to find a place or to see if there is one coming up that would be available, but there has been nothing!! until this house, she only sent me the application forms yesterday and i filled them in and emailed them back this morning and she just rang to say they have already found someone
now i am really stuck!! we are running out of time and we need to find a house to move into but there is nothing in springsure......so it looks like i have no choice now but to move to zilzie and hope and pray that a house comes available at the end of the 6 mths lease that we sign with this new house. but this also means that chloe would have to move schools twice i am not to sure weather i want to do that to her!
maybe this is god's way of telling me that we arent suppose to be moving there....yet?
It has to be easier to find places, once you are living closer to where there are possible homes to rent are imho. There could well be some obscure home where the landlord doesn't want to go through the real estate agents, or a friend of a friend up there.
I have thought about emerald, but its still wayyyyy to expensive for rent there, plus it would be an hour and a half drive from nath's work and there pretty tough on trying to stop guys from driving more the 20/30 mins after working 12hr days. so we would still be apart if i lived in emerald rent at zilzie, plus fuel for him to drive home after the 7 on would still be cheaper then rent in emerald.
Moura is still to close to bilo lol trying to avoid bilo....to many family members there that i dont want anything to do with IYKWIM
bugger,bugger,bugger!! i just wish my little family could be together again
the only towns that are close to dh is springsure, rollestone and neither of them have houses to rent
moura or emerald is 1 to 2 hrs away, but his work wont let him travel after work....for saftey and fatigue. plus emerald is way to exspensive and moura is to close for comfort to the family that have been trying to take me to court to have access to my child!
Moving....but dont know which way to go! need an outsiders opinion :)
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