This is my first post here and i would firstly like to say i'm sorry to everyone that has had a loss.
This is our story,
Found out i was pregnant the middle of september 08, we were over the moon to say the least.
1 week later i started to bleed, not spotting like i had been told could happen, but really heavily. I naturally went straight to emergency at the local hospital. They did the usual blood tests/ultrasound etc and at that point they could only determine that i had a pregnancy sac. There was no fetal pole present at this stage because i was too early.
Went back 1 week later to have another ultrasound and there was a fetal pole present but no heartbeat because i was still too early.
Went back another week later and there was our beautiful angel's heartbeat.
Because i was still bleeding heavily at this point i went for fortnightly checkups to make sure there still life inside me. There was every time i went.
I went for my 16 week checkup on the 27/11/08 and my doctor informed me that my waters had broken and sent me straight up to the ward for bed rest. Seeing my cervic was still closed our baby had a 1 in 4 chance of survival.
Unfortunatley at 7.34 pm 28/11/08 my cervix had opened and i delivered our sleeping angel and it was the hardest thing that i have ever had to do.
Still to this day i don't know why i started to bleed at 6 weeks and continued to bleed non stop for 10 weeks but hopefully when i go for a checkup in a few weeks time they can give me answers.
Hubby and i decided at the time of delivery that we want to try again ASAP but i feel that people might think we are just trying to replace our little one but thats not the case as all... Nothing can ever replace a lost child.
Welcome to BB Mishyy, I'm so sorry for your loss . What a terrible time you are going through .
There is nothing wrong with trying again as soon as you feel ready, don't worry about what anyone else says or thinks, it is entirely up to you and your DH. You love your precious baby and always will and another baby will be a welcome addition to your family.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and I wish you all the very best with TTC .
Mishyy I'm so sorry to read about your terrible loss. You are very strong for going through what you did.
Don't feel guilty for wanting another one so soon. It's only natural to desire to have life inside of you again. On a positive note, that fact that you guys were able to conceive in the first place is a good sign.
I wish you all the best in your future attempts at TTC and I hope you have a little one to hold in your arms someday soon.
Hi,
I'm so very sorry for the loss of your precious angel. My baby boy was born sleeping at 24wks and I too like you wanted to have another baby straight away. This is such a natural feeling and there is nothing wrong with that. You are so right in saying that having another baby will never replace your lost angel. Your angel will always remain close to your heart.
Mishyy I too am sorry for your loss. It's a shame that you join our community at BellyBelly under such difficult personal circumstances - may you find healing and hope.
I am thinking of you at this sad time. I too believe that you and only you, will know when it is the right time to TTC again, anyone who passes judgement is not worth worrying about.
CB xo
Hi Mishyy, I am so very sorry for your loss. Like most of the other ladies have said, you do what is right for you and do not give a second thought to anyone who passes judgement, they have NOT been through what you have. When you are ready, come and join us in the "TTC after late loss" thread where all of the girls have suffered a late loss and are now TTC - actually quite a few are pregnant again so am hoping their luck rubs off on me....
hi Mishyy, i am so sorry for you loss.I lost my baby girl on the 11-11-08 at 28wks i had a emergency c-section and my dh and i feel the same way about trying asap we have also had the comments about trying to replace chloe but that is not the way we feel we just beleive that this a step we need to do to move on. so do what ever your heart desires i beleive that we know what is right for us.big hugs to you.
Don't get me wrong nobody has said anything about replacing our baby, it's just something that has entered my mind that people will think this.... I guess all these emotions are coming and going and i just need time to get my head around it.
I will for sure join you ladies at TTC after Late Loss as soon as hubby and i start trying again.
My bleeding has pretty much stopped now so can someone tell me when we can start trying??? Can we start now or do i have to wait until AF arrives?? I need to know on a medically based as i'm physically/emotionally/mentally ready, just not sure when "medically" we are able to start again...
I lost my little one at 18/19 wks and your right...........it is hard
My DH and i were the same with wanting to start trying again straight away. There is nothing wrong with it.
Its probably best to wait one cycle before ttc again. It also might take a few months before you start ovulating proparly again, thats what happened to me.
I hope it all goes well and you are holding a precious bundle very soon
So sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my little girl on 29/10 and DH and I have decided to TTC soon, we felt the same about wanting to start straight away, I think it's quite a natural feeling and something I'm sure most will understand. I hope you get the facts about what happened with your pregnancy and some helpful information for next time. All the very best. As dd0207 said, come & join our thread in TTC after late miscarriage.
Mishyy, I'm so sorry for you loss. It's so completely devistating it can't even be put into words.
I recently lost our little baby angel on the 11/12 at 18 weeks.
During a monthly checkup the Dr's found that his little heart and stopped beating, i was admitted into hospital the next morning and put into labour. We're unsure as to what has happened as yet but have so far been told he had a lot of deformaties and nature just took it's course, but it's still so hard. I miss my little bump and feel completely empty, like i'm missing a limb.
My partner and I are also wanting to TTC again ASAP and I have had pangs of guilt about replacing our little one, especially when i could start TTC now if i could, (but had been advised to wait for tests to come back, and for my cycle to return to normal), even though that isn't the case at all, we love out little baby so much.
I wish you all the luck in the future for TTC, and hope you are blessed with a little baby as soon as you're ready.
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