Congratulations on the awesome and empowering birth of your perfect little Jackson.

And

I am so, so incredibly sorry for the loss of your son.

I am sorry that you haven't found comfort and understanding thus far. I am also really sorry that you have to put on a happy face for those around you. It's a sad reality of our culture and I wish things were different, just like I wish we didn't feel the need to come up with often trite verbal offerings to try and make sense of a tragedy.

I am just so sorry.