I am so very sorry to read of the loss of your precious daughter Clara. I know it will be hard to believe right now, but it will get easier. The feelings towards other people are perfectly normal. I too shied away from any pregnant friends for a period after my losses. Partly to spare them but mostly to spare me - none of them had suffered a loss and I couldn't stand being around their naivety. I so wished I could go back to that naive,safe world.
I have experienced loss through a cord accident. No one can guarantee that this won't happen again, but as we all know, there are no guarnatees in life. All I can offer is that if you want to try again, take the the chance. I think you will find it worth it.
In the meantime, just know that everyone here understands and will be around to help you through this time and the times to come (you will be bound to have worries and concerns if you decide to try again).
Big hugs to you and your family,
Thank you all for your responses. It is awful to know that there are so many people that have lost babies, but I comforted by your support and what you have learned from the experiences you have had.
I needed to hear it today especially. Thanks.
Dolphin_girl, I'm so sorry darling Clara is such a beautiful name, RIP little angel.
I agree with the others hun, some people appear like they don't care, but in reality they don't know how to deal with something they have never experienced. You'll find people coming out of woodwork though, they are the ones that might share their experiences with you, having lost a baby too. I lost my little son Joshua in 2008 at 21 weeks, and I was a zombie for weeks. Most of my close friends were wonderful, a few offered no support, my own brother has still to this day not acknowledged my loss. We are not very close but my psychologist said that he just does not know who to deal with me & my feelings. Then there was a couple of people at work (and even a few of my customers who I talked on the phone regularly) who told me of their own losses, and I was amazed how many people go through such tragedy.
Personally, I started seeing a psychologist and eventually went to a support group meeting to help me cope with my grief. Both have helped enormously. When you are ready to try again, there is a wonderful group of women here on BB who will understand your fears/worries, it is perfectly normal. It took me 9 months to try for another baby, but even when the time came, I was petrified. I don't think I will ever be over losing Joshua, but I have learned to live with my loss, and I love when people bring him up in converstaion. He lived here on earh in my belly, he was here!! I was so afraid of history repeating itself, but unfortunately, if you don't take the plunge, and you want another child, it just won't happen. I am not sure about how risky a cord accident is in subsequent pg, but I can't imagine it too high.
GL hun, I'm sending you many hugs and love and peace.
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Clara is such a beautiful name, RIP little angel.
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