Im not sure what to say, maybe i would fall in to that group of friends who wouldnt call, but it wouldnt be becasue i didnt care, i have never experiance loss like you have, my heart breaks for you and i just wouldnt know what to say to you IRL. I think many who havent really got any idea what you going through would feel like that. Im sure you are in thier thoughts. you will be in mine all day!
Welcome to BB, i know you will find some beautiful women here to help you!!! hugs to you and your family! xx