Just thought I'd pop back in here & let you know what we are doing...

(I am told there is a group for alcoholic teenagers?...)

so we have spoken to DD about why we are unhappy with what she is doing. Straight off the bat she said she has already decided to curb it. So that's a good start. BUT our consequences stand... We feel like a grounding is kind of pointless, she will be back out sooner or later & if they really want to drink they will find a way. So we have said to her if you are going to make choices, let them be informed choices.

Over the next week she can research the effects of alcohol, in particular teen drinking. Let us know next Friday what she has found out.

The look on her face was priceless

especially when we said... if you don't do it, or don't do it properly...I am taking you to the teenage AA meeting so you can see first hand ... if someone there can't talk to you I guess they will have some information for us all at least.

She took it very well. And we have also told her if at any point we feel that any of her behaviour is getting out of hand we have no hesitation in grounding her for months, or informing her friends parents of our concerns... it would be last resort but if we had to we would.
So, she needs to know that although we understand it might happen we don't condone it IYKWIM.

Gosh it's hard to walk such a fine line

Thanks again everyone