I am going to try and keep a very open mind when it comes to alcohol. I would rather have the type of relationship where no matter what there are no secrets even if they do make mistakes. I don't know if I would supply alcohol ask me in a few years. But if I knew she was going to a party with alcohol I might offer to buy 1 or 2 pre mixed drinks and tell her thats all she's allowed to have. I really don't know. I would also probably say that she would have to check in hourly by phone as a condition of going to the party. And if at anytime I thought she was intoxicated I would pick her up. I think there are ways of doing it responsibly but its easy for that to be abused so I think it depends on how well you know your child too. I think the thing is to remember we were once that age, and it is hard for them. And they will be faced with choices, and we as parents would like to *hope* that they make the right choice and often better choices than we did. But I think its how they deal with it if they do make a bad decision and how we treat them in that situation that will help them to make better choices in the future. Trust is important even when they don't always do things the way we would like them to.

Goodluck Tanya, I hope Alecia can understand your perspective.

*hugs*
Cailin