The situation only arose yesterday for the first time in three months. The rules have not been discussed in the last three months because the situation hasn't arisen. I don't think that constitutes chopping and changing misty - I would think it's revising the situation based on current circumstances. How many people remember to talk to their kids about the rules for something that may or may not happen? It would be like saying, "if so and so has a party in six months, you can't go because there may be alcohol there." If my friend had contacted DSD directly and arranged her to babysit, I would have just said, "sorry, you can't and here's why." It's not like I'm trying to be covert about it, just that I haven't had the conversation because I can't be arsed addressing something that hadn't yet arisen. Sorry, few other things on.

Anyhow, point taken that I may not be being at my MOST fair and MOST rational but I'm also only human and I think most people would be irked by a friend who knows of your current difficulties, makes no offer to help and doesn't call to see how you're going but DOES call when they want a babysitter fully aware that DSD is not the most reliable. I'm not a saint and that DOES annoy me.