Well if I knew there would be drinking at a party I would say no. I can't see Belle having a drink, but it's the other out-of-control yobbos and the attitude of the host parents that I may have a problem with.

I suppose you would have to consider your own situation and area that you live. Who is at the party etc. I'm in the suburbs and you read the the paper about hundreds of kids crashing parties etc, etc, etc.

Anyway, Belle seems happy with girly sleepovers and non-drinking parties. I know all the parents of her friends (I made an absolute point of that after being horrified at the number of parents who are quite happy dropping their kids off at my house when they have never met me. This first happened at DD's 5th birthday can you believe?), and they have the same approach to teens and drinking as I do (so far).