Soul, hun, I'm not saying your girl is irresponsible. I am, however, casting my mind back 10 years and remembering how it was for my friends and me. We all had issues with our parents though! But even the bright girls who knew about teen pregnancy (such as my sister) would often forget to take a Pill. I must admit, I went on it to sort out my periods, never thinking of the side-effects later, but even so I wasn't the best at taking it, some days it would be after school/work rather than before.

I'm just saying what and how we felt as teens and that is what will influence my parenting more than a messageboard, when all is said and done, about this topic. Yes, I will be teaching my children that abstainance is great simply because it was for me - and DH and many other boyfriends respected that.

Then again, my mum wanted to hear I was sleeping with my boyfriend because if I were then it would be more OK for my little sister to, so after a couple of months I just gave up and lied and said I was! Also, "offering" the Pill was "You're going on the Pill because you have a boyfriend and I don't want you pregnant as you're going to sleep with him," which is different to your situation.