My children are their own people, not extensions of me - I can't make them do anything, only hope to guide their actions as best I can. If my children still wanted teenage sex then I'd feel like I have failed. I can't stop them having sex, I can only try to protect them from thinking it's the most important part of a relationship or growing up.

Actually, if they did still want sex I'd show them all the graphic pics of childbirth and STDs I have lying around the house! That medical degree has to come in for something LOL. But I'm educating my boy NOW about why sleeping around is bad; he may not understand it, but he will know right from the start, since before he can remember, that sleeping around is bad and if you're not married then what's to stop your lover from leaving time and time again? Serial monogamy, as it is called, isn't the same as marital sex - comparing stories with serial monogamists, I think I have by far the better deal. I don't worry about DH if we don't have sex for a week or two. Sex just gets better and better. We don't have to come up with new ideas to keep the other interested - we are able to trust each other and share so much more than serial monogamists seem to do. Anyway. I can't stop anyone from having sex, I can only hope to educate against it. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin at 16, 18, 21, 30, 40... only your attitude towards it. And if losing your virginity is more important than forming a loving, long-term, stable relationship then you aren't mature enough for sex!