Not sure if anyone is still checking out this thread but it's nice to see that maybe things here are 'normal'.

DD is 14 and generally pretty good I guess which makes it harder to understand why she is such a monster sometimes...and selfish & self centered OMG!

And I ask myself where have I failed to teach her a bit of decency & respect for others?

Themn she does something so cool and I think it's not so bad after all...

Wondering how things are goign for you Inertia? We had appt with school counsellor the other week wondering how things were there (seem s fine at school) - this prompted by an early mornign drama between DD & DS1 which got quite physical & scared DS2 into going next door for help (I was at work at the time) and from what I can work out most of the physical aggro was initiated by DD.
It seems at this stage to be a one-off but if it happens again there will be counselling for her I think to see what might be going on, also maybe to try & give her another viewpoint? Cause of course, we know nothing....