Thanks to everyone for their replies again.

Yes, I am seeing a counsellor although one hour session a week doesn't seem to make much impact (except on the wallet at $160 a session but get some back on medicare) I'm afraid.

I agree I think i need to just let time elapse to heal from this. Don't you wish you could just fast forward a few months? It doesn't help that my cycle after the D and C is all over the shop - i'm still bleeding after 2 weeks and don't know if it's af or something else - both Drs don't seem concerned....

Also, has anyone else experienced the "over it" husband who just wants things back to normal? I'm having to go out in to the backyard to cry with the pets as he has had enough of it all. He thinks there should be some sort of immediate solution (I work in the healthcare field and know that the "solutions" to an upset, depressed wife are a) sit it out b) admission to psych ward. There isn't a magic solution to all of this.

Anyway, thank god for the little furry ones - they seem to understand the best!

All the best to others recovering.