I'm so sorry for your loss hun, sounds like youre going througha really rough time.
have you tried going out on a date with him???
I know it sounds silly, but I think you both need to reconnect and remember why you fell in love with each other again.
What you have both been through is very traumatic to say the least, and sounds like you are both right smack in the middle of the greiving process X
I dunno, men are different, think diff, act diff. Don't think he is coping very well with the loss of his newborn either.
I wish you both the best and pray that you can get through this rough time together, have a beutifull marriage and little family again.
God Bless XX