Trying to Conceive after Loss or Miscarriage ~ June 08 #2

[Vanaithi]

AJC: very happy to hear from you & that all is well keep dropping in to give us some baby luck! sure need a lot of that here!

kitten: sorry about your loss - you wont feel lonely here, the whole place is filled with everyone who understands what you've been through. be positive & good luck with your IVF

[Easha]

Hi All,

was hanging out in the TWW however AF arrived today

There are so many people around me falling pregnant without even really trying.

I dont really know who to talk too, my DH is trying to be supportive but is just saying we'll try again next month. Friends keep trying to reassure me it will happen with time.

It's so hard to explain to them how this feels unless you have been through it - very down at the moment.

Sorry this is all about me - I hope you have better luck

[plc1805]

Easha and kittens - welcome ladies - so terribly sorry for your losses - we are all here for you.
smilanatu - oh hun i know about wanting to be pg before m/c due dates. My due dates for both m/cs had long since passed before i got pg. You just gotta believe ul get thru ur date if ur not pg and keep believing that it WILL happen for you sweet when it is meant to. Big hugs for you - lunar age buddy!!!!
krystielove - hey hun i love your list - very very clever!! Yeah I am from the west - near Sydenham. But like you i was also originally from the southeast and met my DH and moved to his house in the west. Never thought i would do that - that's what mushy love does to you! Sometimes I think I really am a southeast chick at heart but the west is certainly not as bad as i had pinned it for.

hey everyone else - hope ur all ok. sorry for the lack of rest of personals - ur all in my thoughts and prayers. went to ob yesterday hoping i could get a hb check to get me thru the next 2 weeks before the scan. ob said that he hasn't found a hb at 10 weeks to date but tried anyway. No hb but I am trying not to let it stress me. Gotta believe it will be ok.

[kittens]

thank you for your lovely comments. I'm not sure what the protocol is for newbies....I would just love to drop in from time to time and share and hear some stories. Most of my friends have babies by accident and those that do not are not planning or wanting to expand their families.

Each time I was pregnant coincided with a friend's pregnancy...needless to say one has a beautiful girl who just turned two and one is 10 months. These girls are so sweet and I am god mother to them both. I can't help but wonder what it might have been like if I become a mother.

The only other person I know who has experienced a loss is my sister in law but she lives in america and I do not get to correspond with her much. Her dream came true after 10 years of marriage, her little boy came very early and was with her for 2 hours before passing on, 2 weeks before mother day

Anyway....i'm going to take things one day at a time and not look beyond.

hugs

[jen805]

You know you're addicted to BB when:

1. You sign a 2-year contract and pay $60 more per month just to have wireless internet service for a 5 day camping trip! lol...

2. Your significant other walks in on you checking the position of your cervix, and actually gets turned on from it!

3. You resort to becoming an adult film industry advocate!

4. You read, post, and then refresh to read again in case you missed a post while posting!

5. You dream of being the first to post in the new thread!

6. You feel like you are wasting urine when you don't pee on a stick!

7. You see abbreviations in everyday life and try to work out what they mean in the TTC world (eg. DVD must stand for something like "Doing the vjay vjay dance"...)

8. When you get excited about choosing a new ticker....oh the choices!!!!!

9. You actually think in emoticons and abbreviations...and occasionally call your husband DH....and he says, "what the hell did you call me????".

10. And the biggest one of all....DH actually asks if it was a light or dark "BFP" (not positive test) and whether or not you used "FMU" to test!!!! (all in abbreviations...)

11. When getting a coverline makes you so happy, you feel as though you won the lottery!

12. When you look forward to going to bed just so you can wake up in the morning and add a new temp!

13. You say you are taking a break from bb and then spend 24 hours trying to do anything but log on, including cleaning, washing, ironing, shopping, all the while saying to yourself don't do it don't do it don't do it before finally breaking down and getting your bb fix...

14. You drag yourself out of bed at 6 am every morning even though you're still tired, just to have "quiet alone time" on BB while the kids are still sleeping!

15. You get the butterflies while logging on to read posts!

16. You keep your computer on all day long so you know as soon as someone has made a post!

17. You know you are addicted to BB when you go to put the date on something and you end up writing 9 DPO!

18. You're whole day is ruined just because you can't log onto BB, and you feel like you're going to go insane without your BB fix!



Looking great so far! Let me know if you think of any and I'll add them to the list! Still hoping this is ok with the mods!
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[tippytoes]

Hello my name is Rachel and I am addicted to BB.



Very very true Jen - spoken like a true bb addict!

Rach xx

[smilanatu]

Morning ladies!

plc...thanks for the much needed hug!

kittens & Easha...welcome...so very sorry for your losses...may your stay be short!

Thank goodness jen got her BB fix! I sure hope it's implantation time for you gurlie!!!

Krystie...wow that is quite a list...it sure is good to know where we're all at!

AJC...bub is gonna be just fine! No worries!




:goodluck2: gettin' those

[jen805]

Good morning girls! Updated the addicted list, let me know if anyone thinks of anything else!


WTH--How's it going with the temp shift? Thanks for the great info on implantation, it sure helps feed the mind! I had a small temp drop yesterday, then this am it actually went below the coverline. I'm just not sure how accurate it is--felt like I was going to pop around 2:15, so had to get up and use the restroom, I figured I'd still get a fairly accurate temp if I went back to sleep until 6. But I woke up at 5:30 and tossed and turned until 6 when I took my temp. Not sure now if drop was due to that or not, would rather think it's due to implantation, but I guess I'll have to see what my temp does tomorrow. :goodluck2: hope to see a nice temp drop for you!


mollycat--Sounds like you had a rough day with the kids the other day! That's all common daily behavior in my house--and my kids aren't even 2!!! So glad to hear that AF has been kind this time around, and your headaches aren't that bad. Hope the tamoxifen continues to treat you kindly, as well! Are you almost ready for your cyber camping holiday? I've heard that I'll probably have to drive around to find a spot with service-- guess I'll have to add that to the addicted list when I get back: You know you're addicted to BB when you drive around the campgrounds with your laptop open trying to find service so you can send your posts! Hopefully it will be surprisingly easy and I'll be at the one camp spot that gets service--yeah right, but I can hope can't I?


Krystie--Wow, that's a great list, must've been very time consuming! Hope you're continuing to feel better! Did you notice my temp drop? Just confused because with implantation isn't there only 1 day of decreased temp. then it goes back up? Would my last 2 temps both be considered as drops, or just the one that went below the coverline?


Vanaithi--How's those symptoms coming along? those funny feelings you were feeling are due to implantation! for us both!!


bettyboop--Temps look nice! Congrats on O, and everything's double crossed for you that you caught that egg!


Canary--Thanks for popping in and checking on us! Glad you like the addicted list, let me know if you can think of any to add to it! Hope you're enjoying the PAML thread, and getting a nice, fat tummy!


Hi smilanatu! Fingers are crossed you'll get a nice BFP before July 25! Did you do anything exciting on Father's day?


AJC--A couple more days and you'll be past that milestone! Glad to hear things are progressing so well with your pg'cy!!


kittens--Welcome and big So sad to hear of your losses, but hope you find the support you're seeking here with us! Praying your TTC journey is short and sweet, and you're blessed with a sticky BFP very quickly!


Easha--Sorry again to hear about AF, she's such a witch! Good luck again for this cycle!


plc--What a bummer that they couldn't find that little I'm sure all is fine--is it 11 or 12 weeks that they can normally hear it? Could you possibly request a vaginal u/s, I bet they could find it that way, it's a little invasive, but well worth it! So are you outgrowing any clothes yet, or are you one of those lucky ones that barely puts on any weight in the beginning?


Hope everyone else is happy and well! Thinking of you all always! I'll have to be on here twice as much today since I was robbed yesterday! lol.... can't believe I only posted once all day yesterday, had some serious withdrawals! Oh, had some spotting this am after BD'ing--but don't know if it's due to implantation or just simply from dtd, though it doesn't usually happen, so would like to think it's from implantation! Fingers are crossed--now I just wish this day would hurry up and be over so I can take tomorrow's temp! I really am addicted! Will be back later...


Oh, we posted at the same time-- rach! We're all addicts here, so you'll fit right in!

[Toccara50]

KrystieLove~ I am on the last day of AF I'm not sure just yet when I will O because I have never charted before ...

Easha~ Sorry about AF showing up just keep faith and I will keep you in my prayers that get pg soon ...

Jen~ Nice list I have not been long but I'm sure I be addicted soon just like you girls...

Issy~ I'm sorry just continue to be strong and keep trying for a baby don't give up I'm praying you get pg soon!!!

AJC~ ...

plc~ Hope everything is ok I keep you in my prayers ...

I don't have much hope I will get pg this cycle because DH is working nights now and I work days so we will not see much of each other but I'm still try and get some bd'ing in if I can but I don't feel like this is my cycle ... Today is my last day for AF and I'm thinking I should start charting but I'm not sure what I'm looking for ...

[pbstar]

yay! bb is working again! sounds like i'm not the only one who was getting frustrated...

jen- hun the temp drop and spotting sound very promising...i have my fingers crossed for you! it will be good for you to be going away for 5 days to keep you busy in the TWW- are you going to take any hpt's with you or try to wait til you get back?

smilanatu- so know what you mean about the getting preg before EDD. Mine has been creeping up too (2nd August) and i have been puting so much pressure on myself to be preg before then. am sure it must be contributing to why i'm not getting preg. anyway have now come to terms with the fact that it's not going to happen and i am starting to feel ok about it. i think i will be a little bit sad that day whether i am pregnant or not.

kittens and easha- welcome and big for you both

hi to everyone else, hope you are all well

[tina_k]

really late for work, but just wanted to say thank you to Krystie for the great list, its really hard to keep track where everyone is up to!
so im CD 7 at the moment..thanks

hugs to all, be back tomorrow on my day off for a nice long personals post! yay!

[Vanaithi]

hello ladies

easha - sorry about af, hope she goes quickly so you can try again asap!

jen: congrats on the dip & spotting! maybe dh & i should dtd too & see if any spots come out?? im still having some cramps, but boobs & back get a bit achey sometimes but thats it. no dips or anything to show implantation im still having restless nights too - 4 days in a row now. getting so tired. just want a full nights sleep! dh & i are going to swap sides tonight, see if that helps. i dont think im in it this month, i dont feel anything promising..

[Vanaithi]

PLC: you'll hear bub's soon!:goodluck2:

[Jodsan]

Hi everyone, feels like its been forever, I couldn't get on to BB at all for a couple of days. Well I finished exams yesterday and then AF finally arrived this morning, so start of a new chapter today. Still waiting on more BT results from the dr before we can decide if we are still TTC this month or whether I should see a FS first.

Jen - fingers crossed its implantation.

Plc - I'm sure everything is ok and its just too soon to hear the hb. Hope you're good.

Easha hun, sorry about AF. Sometimes it really does feel like everyone is getting pg without trying, I'm sure your time will come really soon.

KrystieLove - thanks for the list its fantastic! I really, really like seeing all the preggie girls up there.

Big hello to everyone else. I'll check back a bit later to see what's going on.

[mollycat]

That's it - mine is no. 18 - i've been logged off the internet all day (some computer fault) just got back on, been going stir crazy not being able to log in and check up on everyone.

[issy02]

Hello ladies,

Sorry I have been MIA for a few days, just trying to get myself together. I really dont have much emotion for what happened....again, so I have been doing ok. I never really thought it would turn out to be ok anyway, and never really imagined myself carrying this one or even acknowledged that I was pg. However, in saying that, I cant ignore the fact that this was my 3rd m/c of sorts and so I need to look into having some tests done. I have booked an appointment with my ob/gyn for the 24th July....earliest I could get in Im afraid, hes a very busy man! Im hoping that he will be able to recommend some tests or perhaps do another lap and dye tests to see if my tube has 'unkinked'. I have been reading up on chemical pregnancies and all information has said that whilst they are VERY common, not many people even realise they have had one and even if they do, it is rare to experience it more than twice....this is my 3rd. My m/c in Jan was at 6 weeks, but im guessing this was a chemical pg too, just because it was so early and I never had a high level of hcg. In may, I only got to 4w and 3 days, and this one was only 4w and 5 days. Very frustrating! The information said that chem pg can be caused by hormone deficiences, uterine fibriods or chromosomal abnormalities. Im thinking that it would be unlikely that I have had three eggies with abnormalities, but rather that there is something else wrong. Anyway, hopefully ob can sort something out.

So, it looks like nothing much is going to be happening for the next few months as the appointment is not for another month and Im thinking the tests will take a few months too, so I may not be actively ttc till the end of the year! Even though this will take DH and I to 3 yrs ttc, im willing to wait as I dont want another chem pg, and I have a very busy year ahead of me, so it would be nice not to have the extra pressure. Oh I dont know.....Im in two minds about everything. This ttc is very tricky business for some isnt it????

Ok, well thats it for me, im sorry for the lack of personals I havent had the chance to read through all of your posts yet, but I will. I feel a bit out of the loop ATM...sorry ladies. You have all been so supportive of me and I feel like I havent had much to give for the past few weeks...for that, I apologise But I am thinking of you all and I am for a whole lot more BFP's to be announced soon.

Issy

[plc1805]

Hi girls thanks so much for your support which means so much!!!!!!!!!!!

Jodsan - I'm not sure that i answered a question you asked of me a while back and am too lazy to go back and check. You asked about my sil and her kidney prob. She has one kidney and very bad scarring on/in the ureter that leads to or away from that kidney and this is due to reflux in that ureter (she has had a lot of infections and problems in that area). She can conceive ok but is having and will continue to have problems carrying to term cos of the strain the pg has on her kidneys. The risk is that the kidney may become overloaded and give out and then she would run the risk of then having to go on dialysis herself not to mention the risk to the well-being of her unborn child. So she has been advised by various specialists that it is unwise that she TTC (even tho it was extremely lucky that she carried her son to term when she was 20 (she's now 40).

You would appreciate an amazing story i heard about a lady i know - not very well but we have a friend in common. She apparently has only one kidney - don't know the specifics - but she couldn't either conceive or stay pg. After many years of trying thru IVF, etc., her cousin offered to be a surrogate to her baby. Things didn't work out for this cousin to carry the bub and all seemed lost until they found another surrogate. Guess who it was? It was her own mother. Her mother carried this lady's DS when the mother was in her early 50's. After hearing that story, I wondered myself if i could ever do such a thing for my sil. It is something my DH and I would have to think about and I wouldn't mention it to my sil and brother til I was certain our family was not going to increase anymore. Anyway, thought it was a wonderful story.

[plc1805]

jen - i hope it's implantation too!!
Thanks for you post - i did have a vaginal u/s at 6 weeks (with hb present) and will have a normal scan at 12 weeks but this was just at my ob's rooms and he doesn't have a scan - just the doppler, which is unreliable til about 16 weeks apparently. I am starting to outgrow clothes - i reckon i am the equivalent to a month later with DS cos i am 10 kilos heavier then i was with DS. I only put on 12 kilos with my first pg but i have a feeling things will be different this time around .