Trying to Conceive after Loss or Miscarriage ~ June 08 #2

[Acria]

Hi girls. Sorry I haven't been around very much, I've been trying to kind of 'ignore' ttc this cycle. We are tryign and I'm still taking the vitamin supplements and avoiding alcohol and whatnot, but I'm not actively thinking about it. I think I just got myself so wound up last cycle, it really drained me emotionally.

Having said that, it's happening again. Different symptoms, same thinking myself into it, as always with the TWW. I'm completely constipated and gassy, it's so uncomfortable! And DH keeps saying 'maybe it's a good sign'. Maybe it is, but until then, I'm going to keep myself occupied with Sex and the City series dvds and housework. Might even ring my sister to go for a walk tomorrow...the thought is there anyway Love to all.

Lisa xx

[jen805]

toccara--I would definitely recommend charting your cycle! When I started charting I only entered info from when we BD'd and occasional CM when I noticed it, but realized I wasn't giving enough info to accurately tell me when I O'ed. This is the first month I've taken temps, and while I was lucky enough to tell by other signs (CM and CP) when I was O'ing, I got a definitive answer when I got my coverline. Charting really helps you see what's going on with your cycle, and at least you know when you're fertile so you can BD on the days you're supposed to that gives you the best chance for conception. Then you don't have to worry about on the days that you aren't fertile, instead of dtd everyday because you're unsure, you can narrow it down to only your fertile days. Did I just say the same thing differently? I hope I didn't just confuse you! Anyhow, the charting has made me feel like I've taken a proactive approach to figuring out my body, plus it's something to do to pass the time--it's pretty fun, and I actually look forward to waking up every morning and taking my temp! :goodluck2:


pbstar--You're right, the camping will definitely help keep me busy during the second half of my TWW! But I don't think I'll be bringing any tests with me, just going to wing it and see how things progress. I currently seem to be experiencing technical difficulties with the laptop--it worked fine last night and I left it plugged in when I went to bed because it was downloading new software, and now all of a sudden it won't even turn on this am! I will FLIP OUT if it doesn't work for this trip! I could barely make it through 1 day without BB the other day when I couldn't log on, but 5 days??? Couldn't imagine missing out of 5 days of BB! I get it all figured out! Hope things are well with you!


Van--Hope you're catching up on some much needed right now! My temp went back up this am, so really hoping it was an implantation dip yesterday!! Hope your cramps are due to a growing baby!!


Jodsan--Aww, sorry about AF! When will you get your BT results? Yay on finishing your exams, hope you got a A+++!!!


mollycat--Isn't it terrible when you can't log on??? I'm going to repeat myself and say that I will FLIP OUT if I have to camp for 5 days without BB! Wish me luck with the laptop! Do you have anything exciting planned for the weekend, or will it be more work with the house?


issy--Sending a thousand your way! Did you ever have any tests done after the m/c to rule out a hormone deficiency or chromosomal abnormality? If not, then could you at least get some BT's done before you see the FS on July 24th? That's an awful long time to wait for some answers! We all understand why you've been MIA, but know we're all here for you when you need us! Take care, hun, hope things begin to look up for you!


plc--Ok, I'm confused with the whole kilo thing! How much is 12K in lbs? With my youngest DS I only gained 24 lbs., so I'm hoping when I do get pg again I won't gain more than that--although I was so bloated and gassy with the last pg. I looked like I was 6 mo's pregnant at the end of every day, I'm sure I would've gained more than that! I never experienced that with either of my boys, so when it happened last time, it was a pretty big shock to my system. Hope it's not so bad for you! So happy to hear of your


Acria--Good to hear from you--it's been a while! I understand how it is when you're trying to keep your mind off the whole TTC thing, and how draining it can all be. I'm really praying that the horrible constipation and gassiness you're experiencing is due to a sticky little bub growing inside you! That's the only answer that makes it all worth it, right? I've got everything crossed for you!



Ok, girls, I'm really hoping I'll be able to get my laptop working for this trip! If not, I'll miss you all and be thinking of you constantly! I won't have nearly as much fun without you, so fingers are crossed, and I'm praying for a miracle! Please don't forget about me if I can't!!!

[mollycat]

Good Morning to everyone

Jen - hope you have a great time camping and manage to get the lap top to behave itself - it would be just horrible not to have us along with you. By the way I have my bags packed and i'm waiting for you to come and get me LOL. Seriously, not much planned this weekend, DH has to work on Sat (which happens occasionally) so not sure what I'll get up to, I still have a few things in the old kitchen to move out - it's beginning to look like a storage room - so if I can get it emptied, maybe on sunday we can start stripping walls.
By the way your chart looks so good that's implantation for you

Issy - hope your doing OK and your ob/gyn can give you some answers. Is it possible your GP can send you for any bt before that

Acira - for you that you get your BFP this cycle, it can be so frustrating month after month, some symptoms are so annoying cause they can be for either AF or pg. Enjoy your walk with your sister (yes, you actually have to do it not just think about it). At least it will give you something to do for a little while in the TWW.

AFM - tamoxifen still being good to me (almost) i've had a slight headache for the last two days - nothing like last month - and i've been out of sorts - feeling right down like nothing is going right - actually it's not - was told the other day that due to some computer fault some of my pay was not processed, then rang yesterday and told that the rest of my pay may not go in today - don't you just love working for nothing. Hoping it will all be sorted and I will get paid today. I know the money will come through, it's just When?
Time to go and wake my boys and feed the chooks and do the other million jobs I do before work each morning, I wish you all a great day and Jen have lots of fun camping with your family. I'll try and pop in later .......

[pbstar]

morning girls

issy- so good to hear from you, was starting to worry about you. i am sorry to hear you are going to have to wait a while for your appointment, and possibly wait a few months after that to ttc, but if it means you don't have to have another chem preg than of course it is worth it. i know it's hard to think about not ttc though because wanting a baby is not like a tap you can just turn off. what does dh think? hope you are taking care of yourself and enjoying some of those nice little treats like choccy and sav blanc- you definitely deserve it.

jen- don't worry, no one is going to forget about you! the laptop pulls through for you. also for some great news when you get back from camping.

AFM- i am off to see the acupuncturist/herbalist on monday. she is apparantly a bit of a fertility guru so i am hoping she is all she is cracked up to be. have waited over 6 weeks for this appointment, so can't believe it's finally here. and the best news of all, last night DH agreed to come with me and will even take the herbs too. i didn't even think to ask him because i assumed he wouldn't and i didn't want to argue- but last night out of nowhere he offered to come. so i am really excited but a bit apprehensive too because i don't want to pin all my hopes on a miracle.

hope everyone else is well, here's some for all of us

[tina_k]

pbstar:glad to hear your finally getting to see the accupuncturist. It really is helping me feel like im taking a bit more control of this sitiuation that is completely out of my hands...i really hope you get your miracle...

jen: of course we wont forget about you, you are the lifeline for so many of us here. I know i always look forward to hearing from you. Please have lots of fun

issy: im sorry to hear that your journey wont be as quick as you owuld like it to be...you have had such a rollercoaster already. But as someone said before, it willl be worht it in the end when you have a healthy bub in your arms

jodsan: hi! hope your doing ok, my motto is, another AF means another chance to try again!

AFM, well, Af has gone for another month. DH and I decided we would go away next weekend, for "fertile time"! Were going to take a drive down the great ocean road, and stay somewhere for a couple of nights. We havent had much luck in recent months with getting to BD at the right times, last month i was away, the month before we were staying in Syd with DH's parents, and the month before my parents were visiting and sleeping in the room next door! So this time, were giving it a really good go! If were not successful this time, it means that i wont be pg for my EDD, and i dont know how i will get though it...so lots of and

[Vanaithi]

hello ladies..

jen: that temp rise is beautiful! im looking forward to your bfp when you come back from camp! still having some cramps, not a lot as before though. nothing else. still not sleeping! think i have a prob with turning my mind off... im thinking too much i think thats why i cant sleep.. & i get little snippets of funny dreams in between tossing & turning..

pbstar: good luck with your accupuncture appt! update please of how it goes as i am looking to try it out next month!

issy: please go get some hormone tests done earlier! 24th july is too long to wait!

acria: that it is a healthy little bub growing inside thats causing you all that trouble!

jodsan: goodluck this cycle!

mollycat: hope you get your pay soon! my old work still hasnt paid me for the last week of may as well.. will call them about it soon...

everyone: :goodluck2:

[Vanaithi]

tina k: missed your post: hope you have a wonderful time on the great ocean road! a little trip away will help to relax & you'll get a BFP this time! :goodluck2:

[Acria]

Jen - have a great trip Have my fingers crossed for you! You'll have a fantastic time and it will do you good to be away, you'll feel all the better when you come back.

Mollycat - nothing worse than when thepay doesn't come through when it should. Hope it gets sorted out and your day goes well. Love the chooks..wish we had some.

pbstar - good on Dh for being so proactive about it all. Let us know how it all goes and what she has to say. Wishing you luck.

Tina - a trip away sounds like a really good idea. I know what you mean about wanting to be pg by your EDD. I wanetd that as well and didn't make it..and it was hard, but you get through it..I found it good to have a small ritual with DH, to just kind of..let go. But here's hoping you are pg by then and it won't be an issue!

vanaithi - how're you going chick?

AFM - same as always really. Constipation has eased just a little, and still trying tnot to think about it. House hunting at present, bleh. No landlords will let us have cats!

Lisa xx

[tina_k]

Acria, just curious, what did you do on your EDD that helped you to get through it? Any suggestions from anyone else are welcome too!

[Vanaithi]

acria: im ok... how are you doing? what dpo are you at? it says you are testing in 5 days! are you having any positive feelings about it? afm: i still think i havent got a bub in me this month . the cramps have lessened somewhat. good luck with your house hunting! & you have cats! can not remember where i read this, might be here, but apparently cats can smell if you're pg! so they're more attracted to you if you are! i feel like going out to get me a cat...

[tina_k]

Vanaithi: your chart looks great! I can see your on CD 31, how long is your cycle? when will you POAS?

[Vanaithi]

tina k: my chart is inaccurate for the last 5 temps cos i havent been sleeping properly.. so thats not helping me at all.. i thought my cycle would be about 28 days, because i got pg before about 3 weeks af started... plus i o'd late this cycle - the m/c & d/c must have caused it! i've poas 2wice on dpo 7 & 8 which could be too early! & havent since... scared to now! im now 10dpo.

how are you going? your posts dont show what dpo or cd you are on.. are you nearing your test date?

[tina_k]

vanaithi: im still on CD 8...ive added a ticker! but im not sure how to add a link to my chart. Going away next week for "o" time, so fingers crossed

[Vanaithi]

tina: link your chart by clicking "sharing" then "home page setup" in ff - copy & paste your chart address to your signature! for successful

[tina_k]

oooh, done it! thanks Van! i now have a ticker AND a link to my chart

[Vanaithi]

tina, no worries! have a great weekend!

[Acria]

Tina - well what we did was a little bit different. We're our own special brand of pagan, and so we went to a place that feels..calming and close to the elements for me, and we took four hairs from each of our heads, and tied one of each together. So we had 4 little knots that had a strand of each of our hair. Then we dropped one into the river, buried one in the earth, threw one up to get caught in the wind, and burnt the last one. It was our way of..kind of sending our baby back to the elements. And we just sat quietly and had a little cry together, I sent off a little prayer. We had a quiet dinner together afterwards with nice natural ingredients and organic wine, and then bought a mandarin tree, which is still alive and strong.

That was for the first EDD, the second one fell last Christmas Eve, and we didn't actually do anything for that one..maybe because we'd been through it before, I'm not sure.

Vanaithi - I'll probably test in a week, because I'm fairly sure I O'd last Friday. Oh, and we don't have cats yet, but want to get some when we move

Lisa xx

[joey123]

Hi. I'm Joey. I m/c last weekend and am having trouble occupying my mind for a month before the dr says we should TTC again. DH I'm sure is over all the baby talk, so thought this is the best place for me now!! Sorry for the ignorance, what's EDD?