Trying to Conceive after Loss or Miscarriage ~ June 08 #2

[pbstar]

hi everyone

welcome joey- i am sure you will find the comfort and support here that you need, and we never get over all the baby talk like our DH's do so you've come to the right place!

easha- not sure what is going on with your cycle- i would probably test if i was you just to make sure, i have heard of spotting in early preg around the time AF would be due so maybe that's it?

KL- sorry to hear you're not well. I am going to see Lily Liu (in Sydney)- am guessing yours was in Victoria? not looking forward to drinking herbs but you gotta do what you gotta do! will definitely take your advice on the honey though

acria- good luck with the house hunting and well done for staying so sane this TWW!

big and for everyone else, hope you all have a great weekend

[tina_k]

easha: your so strong not to have tested yet! good luck when you do:goodluck2:

Krystielove: ooh, the scented candles are a lovely idea, thank you

joey, welcome, i hope your stay here is short. Everone here is so wonderful and supportive.
I m/c'd in december and have been ttc since then....still no luck for us, but praying that this months our month...

Acria, thank you for sharing, that sounds very special for you. Im not sure what well do yet.....

[joey123]

Hi everyone,

Thanks so much for the lovely welcome.

Arcia - That's such a beautiful idea how you spent your EDD. I had never even thought of doing something like that. Perhaps as it got closer we would've started thinking about it - I guess I'm still in the early stages and soooo far away from our EDD (20/02/09) it hadn't crossed my mind. I'm sure we'll be doing something now though.

plc1805 - congratulations on being UTD . I am so happy for you!! It is such an exciting time!!

Easha - I think you should POAS! I too have heard about spotting when AF is due. I think it's something about when the egg implants, you may see some spotting. An exciting time, can't wait to hear your results!
And as for grosing anyone out ... I doubt it - not me anyway. I think that's quite tame to some of the stuff I'm expecting to read / discuss on this site.

Tina - have an awesome weekend away. That's such a romantic idea. How lovely.

KrystieLove - I was hoping to TTC this month. AF has just left. But the Dr said I should wait a month to increase my chances on the next one sticking. So I SUPPOSE I had better do that. Don't want to increase my chances of feeling miserable, and crying all the time . It's been very much like a roller coaster. Even from the first day I was up and down. Then the days got better, unless someone came to comfort me, which actually made it worse; but the mornings were hard. Didn't want to get out of bed. Felt a bit like 'what's the point'. I'm a year 5 teacher and I really love my job, but didn't want to go to school at all. I had smsed my principal and told her the news and asked her to share it around so everyone knew by the time I got back. Even though I was only 5.5 wks when I m/c, everyone knew I was UTD cause I was so excited about it. Even my class knew. So she also went and told my kids and said to ask her if they had any questions as it may upset me, having to talk about it. They have been fantastic, and my first day back at school was ok, once I shed a few quiet tears with my back turned. I felt like I just wanted to hug them all. I hadn't realised that I had missed them till I was back. So that was a lovely feeling. But then the next day, a teacher who had just had a DS was bringing him in to show off. It was very hard to get out of bed that day. And I didn't go and see her when she arrived. I was on play ground duty and saw her carry him into one of the rooms and immediately started bawling. Thank goodness for sunnies (and a really big oval to walk around on)!! I would have loved to go and see him, but just couldn't.

ANYWAY, I'm feeling better now, and as each day passes I get a little bit better. The fact that it's the weekend helps!! Yay! It seems talking to close family and friends I have no problem, but when those who aren't so close come to say sorry, I bawl. Makes no sense! Don't suppose it has to though. My DH had a couple of rough days, no tears shed though. But he pretty much seems to be over it already. I suppose cause he didn't carry the little one inside and talk to it all day long - even though it was only just over 1mm long!!

On the day of my m/c the hospital did a FBC and said that my hGC was at 45 (very low supposedly for 5.5wks). That was on the Saturday. Then on the Monday, it was at 8, Wednesday at 3, and I'm due for another test today. The dr says I should keep going until I get 2 negative results. It sounds like it's dropping pretty fast to me, so I hope I get my cycle back asap.

KrystieLove, I really hope you get a BFP this month. Fingers crossed for you. And I hope you are feeling well soon. Lots of freshly squeezed OJ (there's a job for DH) and lots of water for you!!

Tina K - Good luck with your TTC. Hope this month's a lucky one for you.

Thanks again everyone for the huge support and welcome. Thanks to you all, I feel like I belong already.

Have an awesome weekend to all of you and good luck if your TTC this month. to all of you.

Take care,
Joey

[Easha]

Thanks all for your support,

Joey hugs to you... those first few weeks/months are tough... I did not leave my house for a week and when I did all I saw around me were babies and Pg women. For me their was some relief as I suppose I wasn't actually pregnant - blighted ovum - I had started spoting at 12 wks so the GP sent me for the ultrasound and there was no baby only a the PG sac. Now I worry - I can fall pg but not with a baby (does that make any sense)

It has been confirmed I am not PG so will have to regroup and move on - cycle back in full swing.

Does anyone follow their lunar phase throughout their cycle. I have been doing a lot of reading and although it sounds a bit crazy it can't hurt to TTC twice a month. My lunar peak falls tomorrow so we will have a go

Hope your all have a good weekend

[joey123]

Easha - Bugger!! I really thought you would get a BFP. I have read a little about lunar cycles but not enough to know what i am talking about. Give it a go though, what harm can be done!

Good luck with your BDing tomorrow! Sending some your way!!


Joey x

[tina_k]

easha: im so sorry to hear that AF has come.
There are a few ladies in here that know alot about the Lunar cycle thingy, its worth a try!
And Easha, I had a blighted ovum too, and i dont feel that it was any less a pregnancy than any other. In our hearts and minds there was a baby in there..and its no less painful than any other either...and also fyi, just because you have had a blighted ovum once does not increase your chances at all of having another...good luck next month

[nicjay]

Joey - Hi and welcome Waiting that month is the most horrible thing, the support here is great though and I hope your stay is short.

Easha - Hi and welcome to you too Sorry about the BFN. I have had very erratic cycles since my m/c last October. I'm not sure it is normal for them to last as long as mine have, but I think it is pretty common for a few months following the m/c. Good luck for your new cycle.

KL - Sorry to hear you are sick I know how you feel (well maybe not totally, but you know what I mean!)

Acria - Welcome back and this is your cycle!

jen - Have fun camping and hope the lap top works for you! I know my DH is always swearing at his when he tries to get is to work from anywhere else besides work LOL so here's hoping you have better luck!

Tina - The trip away sounds lovely. Hope you have a nice time IYKWIM

Mollycat - Glad to hear the Tamoxifen is not treating you too badly. Good luck.

Sorry for the miserable attempt at personals but a big hi to everyone I have missed, hope you are all well.

AFM - Sorry to have been so scarce here over the last week or so, but I am still battling this cold (thanks a lot DD!!) and now I have a sinus infection too grrrr. I have just been way too sick to do anything but a small post in the IUI thread Anyway, I am now 8 DPO and still waiting and hoping being so sick has not decreased our chances at all - does anyone know if being sick in the TWW means you are less likely to get pg? My prog was 63 this cycle though (the best I have ever had) so at least it looks like everything else is looking good for this cycle. I'm not really sure when AF is due with my mental cycles, but the clinic reckons Fri 27th and I have to go in for a BT if she doesn't arrives by the 30th. Fingers crossed!

[~ Mylitta ~]

pbstar - Yep, my acupuncturist was in Melburne, but she travels quite a bit to sydney to see clients up there as well. Her name is Carolina Gonzales. She has a long waiting list for your first appointment as well, but after I saw her once is was easier to make regular appointments, so hopefully yours is like that too.

Easha- I totally agree with Tina. A blighted ovum is just as much a pregnancy in my eyes. I found out that I had lost my angel at 8w1d and my obstetrician was unable to tell me if it was a silent miscarriage or a blighted ovum. But he was very quick to tell me that in either case there was a baby that got far enough along in it's little life to implant into my uterus. He told me that he was about 99% sure that the baby didn't survive due to a chromosomal problem and that there is nothing I could have done to change things. I take heart in knowing that I now know that I can fall pregnant, and I'm sure that my next bubba with be healthy and happy.
I don't know how much faith I have in the Jonas Theory / Lunar Conception stuff, but hey, it doesn't hurt to try to increase your chances of conception!!

Joey - I'm glad your hcg level is falling so quickly. Mine was pretty high when I had my d&c and it was still at 101 three weeks afterwards. I don't think there is anything wrong with starting to TTC again this month as long as you feel emotionally ready and that you are aware that there is a slightly higher chance of miscarriage. My ob told me that my uterus lining might not get thick enough in the first cycle, but when he did an internal ultrasound he found a wonderfully thick lining already. Ten he admitted that he's had patients who had given birth and fallen pregnant in the first couple of months after the birth, and even they had sticky bubs that went to full term! You have to do what feels right for you

I hope everyone else is having a lovely weekend. I'm working today (lunch break) and am working again tomorrow night. But then I get Mon and Tues off work, yay!!

Adios!

[jenushka]

Hello ladies!

Sorry I've been absent lately - had a pretty busy week with some travel to Sydney for work and then had my in-laws stay last night. Finally I have some time to myself - aaahhh! I have been keeping up with reading all the posts, just haven't had time to write. This post will be a quick one too as ds is just starting to wake up from his nap...

Hello and welcome joey - I am so sorry to hear of your loss As the other ladies have said it really is the best place to come and chat and vent, and take some of the burden off our poor dh's (mine was supportive, but there's only so much he can say really). I hope the wait to ttc again is gentle on you. And I notice you are a brisvegas girl too - northside or southside?

I'm doing well, about 5.5 weeks now and getting some lovely strong symptoms (v.v.v. sore bb's and nipples - sorry if tmi! - nauseus most of the time, heartburn, dizzy, frequent weeing). Still no word on if I can get my early scan brought forward from 16 July. If I haven't heard anything by the end of next week I'll give them a call. I haven't felt the need to use any of my spare hcg bt referrals but they're a lovely security blanket. Am not quite ready yet to move on to paml if that's ok - probably won't be until after my first ob appt and everything looks ok (with my last pg, thats when we found out bub didn't have a h/b). So I'll be hanging around for another little while yet

Better go, ds is winding it up a notch! and and to you all - hope you're having a lovely weekend...