Oh Lee, I cannot start to find any of the right words for this message to you but just wanted to add my support to everyone else's you have come to the right place and BB ladies are just the best.
My 4th son was born with what was described as 'a bit of a colour' and 'laboured breathing' (they called it 'grunting' and 'singing' - all my babies have been born in the UK so not sure if different words are used here) - I left him tucked in his cot whilst I had a bath (UK practice) and the midwife placed him under a heat lamp in his cot - when I came back he was still making these noises - a midwife that I had known previously (not the one that delivered me) put her head round my door to say hello as she had seen my name on the board - she then noticed that Joe was still making these noises and called the Registrar. Then all hell broke loose and Joe was rushed round to SCBU (Special Care) and within half an hour he was on CPAP in an incubator - they did a lumbar puncture to rule out meningitis and took chest xrays.
In the meantime, my HVS (swab taken when my waters broke - I was 36 weeks - it's routine in UK) came back positive for Group B Strep so they then suspected Joe pneumonia - this was then confirmed by the chest xrays - double pneumonia. To cut a long story short, Joe was in SCBU for the best part of a month on treatment.
I read your post in tears because it scared me so much as to what could have been (I'm so so sorry - this sounds so selfish) and I do so hope I haven't upset you by what I have written - I just wanted to let you know what we experienced - we were told several weeks after, when we went back for Joe's 3-month check that we could so easily have lost him. It's just that there are similarities and I wanted to make sure you knew of a few things that need to be ruled out. I'm not medical at all so I am not sure what the difference between an autopsy and a coroners inquiry is - just some answers would be so welcome, I know that from m/c.
I have recently lost my second pg after Joe, and I can totally identify with you wanted to TTC again, not waiting for anything or waste any time, I am still waiting for AF though.
I'm sending you HUGE hugs and much love, Luc is a very beautiful name for you to have chosen for your little boy.
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