Afternoon ladies there was a lot to read after my few days break from BB so sorry if i miss anyone.
Our wedding was beautful it was suppose to be overcast and cool on sat but it was sunny and 31 degrees everything went perfectly i even brushed up pretty good i am just so happy to have married the love of my life my hubby keeps texting me whats my beautiful wife up to ect he just loves calling me his wife the only little issue we had was as my girlie bits ( milly's problem also ) dried out and all the BDing we did i ended up with a shocking UTI and on antibiotics i was weeing razor blades and blood so we have yet to do the deed as husband and wife but we had plenty before so we can wait.
Thopes-sorry AF turned up you might get a new years eve baby.
Mathewsmum-good to see your FS has a plan for you.
Emmy-it would be nice to get a natural BFP and not have to worry about the ivf road.
SPF-i loved the comment mrs ferrals LOL and thats the way i'm thinking at the moment if i get pregnant and its ment to be then good no more TTC consuming my every thought.
Craftmummy-i have a whole nusery set up with all of abbi's things i am thinking of putting it away until we get pregnant and get the all clear at 12 weeks so i know it is hard even when we already have kids.
Well i have a bit of a winge to tell you last xmas at my family xmas party i was 8 weeks pregnant and my step cousin who is 39 almost 40 said to me why would you want another baby at your age and you should consentrate on saving your money blah blah blah well i found out yesterday that she is 35 weeks pregnant and almost 40 she would have fallen pregnant around the time we lost abbi and i'm like WTF what a biatch!!!! how dare she say that to me and now flaunt her pregnancy at 40 in my face GRRRRR!!! she is also having a boy so that make 10 boys out of 11 people around me that got pregnant after losing abbi with the exception of one sort of work friend she had her baby yesterday and i was told during her labour the placenta tore away from the uterus and she had to be rushed in for an emergency c-section the baby was without oxygen for 7 minutes so she is in intensive care and they have to wait for tests to see if she is brain damaged so sad.
Afternoon all-emmy-good luck for the new year...Dory-thanks for the info,i'll look into it.what has your day been like?..T-hopes & scarypinkfairy-hopefully you'll be needing to use all those baby things real soon...craftymummy-sorry you didn't get that special chrissy present,maybe santa lost some of our addresses,you'll be unpackng that box of baby things soon as well.
Hey T-hopes
reading your post was like reading my own life today! my 2nd AF was due on xmas too... note i wrote WAS..cos i started to bleed today..(sorry) and i am gutted . Had my MC 2nd Oct at 10.5 weeks (blighted ovum) ...and was wishing that Santa would bring two lines for xmas but ..oh well ...looks like i will just get very drunk at work xmas party instead.
i went to the physio today and there was an new born with the mother in the waiting room and i had to leave i felt so suffocated, hearing that baby make sounds and see the mother look at it, i had to go outside it was so intense and in my face.
i have heard that acupunture can help with PG. i too was thinking abt going. i live in melb if you live in melb too can you recomend who you went to?
Again ladies you are my only out let. i cant talk to my sister as she is 24 weeks PG and i know she feels like I take away her happiness when i share my saddness, my DBF tells me, we cant assume it will happen first time like last time and tells me that I need to let it go cos it will just cause us more stress which is what we dont need. i really do feel i have no'one to talk to. i think my greif makes my famliy uncomfortable, cos there is happiness with my sis PG but saddness with my loss.
oh what i would give to have back the easy going head space i had before the MC. I know i dont write often ladies, but i can assure i read your posts and they help me.
Congrats on your wedding Ferrals
craftymummy you are so strong i so relate to so many things you have said. xx
scarypinkfairy i know what you mean, its PG woman and new borns and esp woman who mistreat thier PG, my bro ex is PG and is really is an evil person the emtional pain she has put him and her own children through is unforgivable and yes she is PG, shooting her mouth off to all at 8 weeks.
ok better stop now, he is going to wonder why i am tearing soon.
again ladies thank you for being there for me to just BBBLLUURRRTTT it out.
hi budgi
so so sorry to hear of your loss, it is such a hard thing huh. and so crap to hear you got AF! how good would a BFP have been on christmas day! I was so excited!! all comes crashing down so quickly though doesnt it! when my AF arrived last Saturday, it was the same day I was meeting up with my pregnant friend (who is 2 weeks behind what i should have been) i was such a mess, thank god it was outside and i was wearing big sunnies! I was a secret mess underneath my glasses!!!
I hope my story gave you some comfort, although its sad that so many of us have been thru this, its comforting to think that we are not alone! i have been finding it hard also to know who to talk to about this, my friends are beautiful but they cant possibly understand, nor do i expect them too! they just assume that because it was 3 months ago, that I am fine! So not the case, im still stuck back in September, lying on that ultrasound table, seeing my beautiful baby on that screen with my beautiful husbands hand in mine - hearing those lethal words - "im sorry, this doesnt look good... your baby is too small and there is no heart beat"
i had been seeing a acupuncturist in Ferntree Gully, Dr Wood(i live in sth east subs) he wasnt treating me for infertility but he was treating me for anxiety, stress, not sleeping etc and it was fabulous. my dad was diagnosed with cancer and I was having a hard time with it and this treatment really helped and i strongly believe it helped me get pregnant! i am calling him tomorrow to start seeing him again, he is brilliant!
what area do you live in budgi???
xx
Last edited by T-hopes; December 21st, 2009 at 07:23 PM.
Can I have a moan - I NOW HAVE A RAGING UTI!! I could scream, peeing blood and razor blades (I'm pinching Ferrals description here) and on anti-biotics, which don't seem to be working! ouch!
OK, so now that is out of my system-
welcome budgi, sorry you have had to join us, but the ladies here are great!
T-hopes, crafty mummy - darn AF, she should just stay away when she's not wanted! Yep, drink lots of alcohol, caffine, and smoke too - guaranteed to work! It seems to work for everyone else except us, doesn't it?
SPF - DH swimmers are fine, it's me and my hormones which are up the $&%@!
ferrals - glad the wedding went well! shame you can't consumate it yet
Emmy & Matthews mum - I have this cycle and next on clomid, and then if no BFP it's IVF for us too.
budgi-sorry af showed,santa really needs a new bookkeeper,hope the acupunture helps next cycle...t-hopes-i think you were strong to still meet up with your friend,i have been known to hide from pregnant women...milly-sorry about uti,are you using ural sachets,they might help while waiting for antibiotics to kick in...
milly 5 i hope you didn't take my comment the wrong way, i just meant to swim through the dryness... sorry, can't think how else to word that. i hope you are ok after getting uti.
i think you should try to pee every time after dtd. the one time i didn't i ended up with a uti, then thrush from antibiotics. so make sure you take a pro-biotic like inner health plus.
budgi sorry you got af.
T-hopes hope the acupuncture works again for you. i could not be that brave to have all those needles stuck in me!
ferrals4 what a hypocrite that lady is! it's not ok for you to get pg, but fine for her! hope your friends baby is ok. keep us posted.
All the poor gals with UTI's! Word of advice? The probiotics are a winner if you get candidia/thrush but the meds that I had problems with recently are the once off "thrush treatment" tablets. Not recommended if you are pg but I only found out after I did some research, also not recommended when TCC either! My SIL is a Dr and she described the meds as "toxic". Should have asked her first! After the way I felt I agree!
I am having accupuncture now too, but I am in Qld, so not much help on the recommendations. I am a bit of a skeptic but some of the "predictions" about my cycle and flow have been spot on ( and are changes from my usual) so it's pretty amazing. I reckon its also helped me with my extreme fatigue, and mind fogs ( as well as eating more haem and non haem iron, but the accupuncturist also went through dietary issues). And I developed this wicked amount of water in my ear which wouldn't budge for 8 hours, but after 10 seconds of accupuncture it was gone. Sweet relief.
Budgie - welcome. sorry about your little angel. In my journey I have also had a blighted ovum, but at 8 weeks.
Mathew's Mum - heya how are you? Thanks for asking about my day. Today has been a good day, after a pretty glum day yesterday. How are you doing?
Scary Pink Fairy - heya, how you doing?
It's so easy and understandable to feel angry and hurt when we see someone who is not treating their pregnancy with the respect, care and wonder that the it deserves. I get angry too sometimes, but I find it is just too hard worrying about everyone or anyone else and the poor choices they make. I don't have enough energy for that. Instead, I just worry about me and what I am doing. At least there are some things that I can do that give me a sense of control. Not many, but some. And I am going to grab on to them with both hands.
I wanted to asked Ferrals4 about your wedding? can you tell me a bit more about it - the details....... I am a wedding tragic......
Also, sorry if it sounded like I was sermonising in the last post, What I meant to say, is that's what is working for me right now. Everyone has to find their own path.
Why is it in the TWW that we feel every little niggle and twinge and think OH! could that be implantion or is that the uterus starting to react to a baby burrowing in and are the sore boobs from hormones from AF comming or baby hormones.
Dory-my wedding was on the waterfront a beach/hawiian theme with frangipanis for flowers all the boys wore back knee length shorts with white shirts and black thongs and i wore a white full length cotton dress with gold and silver beading around the bottom it was fitted around my boobs and i had frangipanis with it and gold sandles i loved it casual but intimate we got some beautiful photos when i get a chance i will attach some to a post.
Milly-AWWW! i know how you feel i went to the doctors and said i need antibiotics and he said i need to test your urine first to be sure so when i came back with the jar and it was red fluid and not yellow he diddnt even bother to test it i always go to the toilet after sex except when we are in the fertile period and i never get uti's i think it was because my girlie bits had dried out after the progesterone sups i was on and the friction caused it.
AFM-i have had some light niggling and pulling sensation in my lower belly area but that could be anything as we all know anyway I have to run im off to visit my dad then off to work i will catch up with you all tomorrow night.
morning ladies! so sorry i have been missing AGAIN!!
Ferrals i am so glad that your wedding went of without a problem! i am really sorry to hear about your poor girly bits tho, not fair is it.
sorry that i am missing everyone else... life is way too busy to keep up with all these posts at the moment!
I am due for AF on christmas day... how much does that suck. I aam feeling quite a few symptoms tho so quietly getting my hopes up, but i know its probably just my head playing tricks on me!
is any one else due to test soon?
Hi ladies,
Had such a bad day yesterday. Found out a friend lost her beautiful bubba at 18weeks. I am so angry with life at times gggrrrr. This is the second time it happened and she has been ttc for 4yrs. I can't believe how unfair life can be at times vent vent vent. I just don't understand why some people have such rotton things happen to them. Not that having another bubba would replace the two boys she has lost but its very unlikely she will have another (age related infertility, IVF and both boys were lost due to APH which they can't work out why) I don't think its co-incidence. She was due at the same time as I was with my EP bub and I said to her that I am glad she was the one still pregnant not me (months ago) still don't understand why life can be so cruel.
Not much else to say. I am still in shock.
Yeah ferrals how was your wedding? Congratulations.
Oh also yesterday found out DH cousin is pregnant again with bub no7. She also has none in her care (all foster care) as she was caught using IV drugs in front of her kids when DOCS came to investigate. She also suffocated her newborn 6yrs ago accidently after using drugs. Surprisingly it didn't upset me the pregnancy annoucement I was just like typical. Why am I not surprised. Poor bub will withdraw of biodone plus heroine before it goes into care.
~mummyof4~ must have posted at the same time. I hope you get a BFP for Christmas and of course anyone else thats due to test around then or AF. Pray it doesn't show and a bubba does instead.
Ok we all must have been writting at the same time. Ferrals would love to see a picture. I bet its was lovely by the sounds of it.
Morning
Hi ferrals so glad you had a fab day shame your on the antibiotics but soon you will be back to normal and maybe you won't need to TTC anymore ! last time I fell pg I had terrible thrush and bladder probs but AF never showed it worked out to be the time of conception so fingers crossed for you !
Dory emmy T-hopes Mattewsmum and spfairy hope your all ok and trucking along this road of TTC feeling confident and ready for a 2010 Bub as I am awaiting too hopefully not too long for all of us,
Ferrals that women is just horrible saying what she said bet she was just jelous of you and then ended up in the same boat. I have had 2 in my 40s and my body was fine with it and as for money well its the root of all evil if you ask me children are gods treasures and we are so lucky to be blessed with them and we all will be blessed again soon !
AFM well AF is not being kind had dreadful cramps and really heavy bleeding the last 2 days but on the plus side I guess I will have a decent thickness of lining to grow a bub now, so heres hoping I don't have to wait too much longer my 45th bday is in April and I so want to be pg again before then I know my chances are slim but will keep trying anyways !and I guess with having regular cycles still at my age thats got to be a bonus !
Emmy - so very sad to hear about your friend, that is tragic... so very cruel. Sounds like she is very lucky to have a friend like you though -someone who can empathise and be there for her!
Crafty - we are just about on the same cycle date! one day a part! Lets pray that our BFP's arrive in January 2010!!! We'll be counting down together!
Ferrals - congrats on the wedding! Sounds amazing!
Mummyof4 - good luck on christmas with you testing!!! All my fingers are crossed for you!!!
xx
afternoon everyone,scarypinkfairy-I've heard if you have a good acupuncturist ,the needles shouldn't hurt,hope what i have heard is right....Dory-glad yesterday was better than the day before,i agree everyone has to find their own path but i think putting ideas& thoughts out there helps people to find that path...ferrals-hope their early pg symtoms...mummy of 4-good luck for chrissy day,keep us updated...emmy-sorry to hear of your friends loss,bet she's glad she has you..craftymummy-have you been busy with christmas stuff?..t-hopes-how are you?..murraycod-you okay?..afm-tubal test has been moved forward to christmas eve,so looking forward to getting some answers hopefully,pretty emotional day(bil funeral)went as nice as possible though.
All good here on the home front thanks Matthew'sMum, good luck with the tubal tests Xmas eve, so glad that it is so soon for you, I know I hate waiting for things!
Sorry that your BIL passed away, I hope that you and family are doing okay
Crafty honey nasty witch can really let you know she is around when she wants to! Poor thing. Getting AF is bad enough, but the cramps are just not called for!
THopes hi darling hope you are well, I do hope that you get your BFP soon X
Emmy83 so sorry to read about your friend, let her know we are sending her our regards, and we hope that she is okay (sounds so impersonal, of course she feels like crap) Hope that she can get through this XXX
Mummyof4 I hope that you do get a christmas miracle!!! You deserve one that is for sure XXX
Lets hope that all of these UTI's are all of a sudden around for good reason girls.....three of my GF's got UTI's when they fell PG, could be a sign!!!
Another sign to add to your list Ferrals!!!! Your right though, our mind can make us feel like we are going crazy during the TWW. Sounds like you had a wonderful day, hanging out to see photos!X!X
Dory very good advice on just worrying about ourselves in 'real world' life, can get very exhausting and stressfull otherwise, wish sometimes I could just turn 'OFF'. I will learn too!!
Milly5, hello hun!
SPFairy
Budgi and everybody, Hello take care, mabey I will be back tonight XXXXXXX
Picked up all of my meds yesterday, wow there are so many injections and pessaries packed away in the refridgerator ATM!! Move over vegies, not enough room!!
Getting closer!!!
2nd AF early.... disappointment..
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