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thread: Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage or Loss Jan 2010

  1. #235
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    Hello Ladies,

    Sparkles- Welcome to our thread. I am so sorry to hear of your recent loss. You are obviously a very brave and couragous person and I'm sure it will be worth all you have been through in the end. Hopefull your results in April will shed some light on why you are having so much difficulty getting a sticky bub.

    Murrycod- My friend is 14 weeks with her baby concieved on first FET and said she was totally convinced her AF was coming and got no positive hpt and was completely shocked when they called to say the bt was positive. Hang in there babe. I'm sure all the hormones are making it much harder but we're here for you.

    Emmy- yes the lady yesterday said that it was morphology that made the count drop so much and that basically his swimmers are just "borderline". But hey if that's what we have to work with that's what we have and I know my little bub will make it here regardless.

  2. #236
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    Sep 2009
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    MurrayCod - Don't Loose Hope, Don't overanalyse anything.. Even the books and articles say that, very early Pregnancy symptoms are more like AF symptoms....and yours sure are Early Pregnancy Symptoms. Just believe in yourself, You have to believe in yourself and POSITIVE is going to happen. Your Miracle is on the way. My wishes, my prayers, my positivity -all is with you
    Snugglybean -Welcome back to Brisneyland...Sorry you are having a rough week. Hugs to you xxx We missed you here.
    Anita - Day 21 - May be by next week you get the AF like normal 28 days cycle.
    I had very little bleeding / blood loss after D&C and got the AF in about 26-28 days...which was normal, & the Gyno did quoted - just wait for AF like your normal cycles and after one cycle you can try again, but after that PARTIAL MOLAR PREGNANCY SCENARIO creeped up...
    Emmy83 -whats going on there? When is your appt with Dr. and did you started BD
    Sparkles - Welcome to the thread, you are at the right place, ladies are good, supportive and knowledgable here. Hope your journey is short here and you get BFP soon with H&H Pregnancy. I did read your story, really a very tough and emotional, Big hugs to you and your patience
    KitFaerie - Welcome to the thread Darl. Sorry to hear about your recent loss, Hope your TTC journey is short and you get the BFP quickly with happy 9 months. True that Sperm Race was great, there is a part-2 as well, I goggled it and found it, but couldnt watch it bcoz of my antivirus software. Atleast that documentary convinced my Dh that smoking is not good for sperm health and can interefere with genetic information and now he is trying to reduce slowly ...atleast trying...I believe even a thought makes a lot of difference
    ATM with me -
    I went to my GP for my results, everything is normal, she didnt explained the results and somehow we started discussing about OPK and i said they are hard to read and i cant make out when LH surge appears and both lines seems same to me, and i used it twice. She referred me to Gynecologist to check whether I am ovulating or not? will get appointment in 2 weeks. She just said Its better you see a specialist, they will do the full examination.
    So i am thinking to get digital OPK this month.

    ALL THE BEST TO ALL FOR BFP THIS MONTH.

  3. #237
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    MurrayCod: Don't give up hope! Somethings going on, and everyone says cramping is totally normal. Fingers crossed!

    Sparkles: I so so so hope you get your forever baby this cycle, you've had such a long journey I hope it works out.

    Sunbeam: Thanks for the welcome All you need is one sperm right?

    Emmy83: That's such a cute idea for Valentines Day! With a glass of non-alcoholic wine

    MatthewsMum: I hope you get your answers, so frustrating when your not sure what's going on! Best of luck.

    Snugglybean: Ouch, really hope you find some answers too! I'm sorry it's a sad time.

    Ric: Will have to look for part 2, and absolutely thought makes a difference to actions, good luck to your hubby!

    AFM still in the same place, sigh, no AF but still cramping. I kinda remember cramping a lot before AF when I first came off the pill, so still hoping it will be soon. Running to the loo to check a lot, lol. I swear when it does come I'm gonna do a Cycle Day 1 dance, lol.

  4. #238
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    Hey gals - I reckon I need to take a day off work every week to keep up. Welcome o the new gals - kitfaerie and sparkes. I am sorry for the loss of your precious little ones, but there are some truly amazing women in here. Sparkles, I am yet to read your story, but I have no doubt it will have me in tears. Thankyou for providing the link and sharing it.

    It seems a few of us are doing it tough. I didn't realise there were so many EDD's in January 2010. Mine, for the twins is tomorrow 20th Jan. DH and I bought some trees today to plant - 4 - pretty symbolic for us, but we didn't really plan it that way.

    Mo4 - are you still having those symptoms? Are you feeling any better.

    Ric - good news about going to a specialist, Hopefully some answers will turn up.

    Murraycod - Be brave my friend. So you such a beautiful woman and you have such strength. I know you can do it, one moment at a time. I can't imagine how tough this journey is right now for you. I wish I could make it better. You, Dh and eby Harvey are in my prayers.

    Mathew's Mum - sorry about your bfn...... big hugs!

    T-hopes - That is so cool - the very special tattooes. I had thought of doing that, but then events have overtaken me, and its not really for me now. But it gives me such a great sense of peace that you have done it as such a long standing and personal memorial to your angel.

    Emmy83 - Thoughts for you for you EDD yesterday. I know its tough, and I know you have a lot of hard dates emotionally coming up. Dig deep sis - you can get through this.

    Crafty9 - can't beleive on top of a gastro bug you get the mother of all AF's.

    Ciara.e - hey motivator ! have you been doing my exercise for me? I am actually starting to feel less fatigued. Whilst it scares me no end that it could be heralding something I don't want to face, I am also thinking of going for a swim today, and that is pretty exciting. Swimming is an activity that has been approved by the ob. will let you know, but am almost high with anticipation of diving into the water and feeling it envelope me and then just to swim my cares away.... ahhhh

    TCCALC - hope the wait is not doing your head in too much, but I understand if it is.

    Sunbeam - I am glad you found some kindred spirits that have given you some hope.

    Snuuglybean - welcome back, sorry it hasn't been that easy for you.

    Twin Sis - thankyou! How are you doing?

    Smallfryplus - hiya.

    Eliselouise85 - hiya and thankyou.

    TinaR - thankyou, I hope you are doing ok are you in another thread that we could chat in?

    AFM - one day and sometimes one moment at a time. Although I got pretty excited when I almost puked yesterday......who was it that was saying they puked up their breakfast a while ago? Take care my blossoms and thankyou for your support and kind words.

  5. #239
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    Jan 2010
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    Hello ladies...

    Kitfearie.... Sorry for your loss.. your in my thoughts..

    Murraycod... thinking of you...

    Snugglebean.. Welcome home and sorry you had a rough week ..

    Sparkles... Sorry for the loss your in my thoughts as well.

    Dory... thanks its just annoying ..

    ric... your probably right.. i hope so..
    i think i O'd 2days ago.. I didnt think that is possible till i have my first cycle..????
    7 more days and ill see her!! im very excited and anxious to see her..LOL
    i just want this over with so we can go on TTC..

    Keep us posted onn the results...


    Afm.... im up late again 12:30am and gotta be up @ 6:30am to get kiddos ready.. ( 2 neices and 1 nephew i take care) they are my life!!

    Sending to all ttc..
    and a BIG to all

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    TTCALC - do your nieces and nephew live with you or are they visiting? You do burn the candle at both ends at the mo.

  7. #241
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    Jan 2010
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    TTCALC - do your nieces and nephew live with you or are they visiting? You do burn the candle at both ends at the mo.
    They live with me ..

  8. #242
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    Jan 2010
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    Hi all,

    I am new to this site after searching the internet for some ladies who understand my grief. Here is my story...

    I have been with OH for two years and we began TTC April 09. I am young, healthy and have regular cycles, so naturally I didnt think it would be a long journey. However, it did take us until Dec of 09. I was ecstatic on Dec 19 when i got my BFP - the first ever. On Jan 5, i was 7 weeks but began to bleed. I arrived at the ER where BT's showed my levels were low and a scan showed that i had already passed my jellybean.

    I feel empty. And i needed someone who understands.. All i wanted was to be a mummy. OH and I want to start TTC asap as docs say there is no reason we can't. But i am worried about fear and worry consuming my next pregnancy...

    Kez.

  9. #243
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    Dec 2009
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    hey ladies! sorry havent been on in a few days and im a bit behind again!!!

    welcome Kez, Sparkles & Kit Fairie - im so sorry to hear of your losses, it is a heartbreaking time and i hope we can help ease the pain a little. i joined in December and have come such a loooong way since then thanks to all the support that i receive every single day from these girls! My friends and family & DH cant believe how much better I have been and its all thanks to these ladies!! We are all going thru this journey together and its so nice not to be alone and that its ok to feel the way that we do for as long as we do!! we are all here for you! xx
    murraycod - lovey, stay strong!!!! xx
    sorry not much time for perssies...dinner is just about ready but wanted to let you know - AF is now 1 day late.... hmmm this is good! has been very punctual since D&C so this is odd... def must have ovulated late. feeling lots of pinches, pulls, jabs and stabs! Boobs are huge and have a strong metallic taste in my mouth!! tested this morn and got the slightest, lightest ever 2nd line, you can only see it when the light catches it so im not taking it as a BFP yet and dont want to get too excited just in case AF is just late for whatever reason! but DH said that he too can see the line in the light so im not going crazy... but we certainly arent celebrating yet cause there is no colour in that 2nd line just a shadowy thing! Will try again in 2 days!
    other thing that makes me feel positve is that when i had u/s last thursday of my uterus it was 13mm thick, surely 5 days later it would have turned into AF being that it was that thick!!!!do they get much bigger than 13mm b4 a period?? Anyway, enough over analyzing things for me but your the only ones that truly understand how obsessive it can all be!!!!! Praying that my gut instinct was right for this month and we get a strong BFP this week!

    xx
    Last edited by T-hopes; January 19th, 2010 at 05:20 PM.

  10. #244

    Apr 2009
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    Murrycod- ive been keeping my eye on you i just want to let you know progesterone pesseries give you period like cramps i had heaps i felt like my AF was on the way and your vjay jay dries out so bad but it is totally normal so relax and think positive any activity down there this early is a good sign when AF is not due so it all sounds great so far i will be stalking you in this thread until you get your BFP you have been great to me and i couldnt just not check up on you.

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    Apr 2009
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    Miss you all

  12. #246
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    Dec 2009
    Victoria
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    ferrals - so nice to see your name in here again... hope your doing ok, dont be a stranger xx\

    to all those with EDD that have recently been or are soon to approach, take it easy and look after yourself. its your special day to remember your angel so do whatever you have to, to get thru it xx
    Last edited by T-hopes; January 19th, 2010 at 05:14 PM.

  13. #247
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    May 2009
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    [QUOTE=dory;2143462]
    TinaR - thankyou, I hope you are doing ok are you in another thread that we could chat in? [QUOTE]
    Hi Dory - I am in the PAML thread. Let me know if you need the link...perfect place to stress and unwind, stress again!

  14. #248
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    Sep 2009
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    Evening Ladies

    To all you new ladies HI hope you find comfort and strength in here to carry on TTC this forum is full of wonderful ladies all in the same boat and all giving each other support
    sorry you had to join us but glad we have had chance to be aquainted !

    Ferrals hi sweety glad your still lurking murraycod needs you ! and so do all of us !
    hope your doing ok think your TWW is around the corner am I right ? goodluck honey you deserve a BFP along with murraycod but I will be sad to see you all move without me

    Thopes sounds good you lucky thing got it right so soon !

    Dory so glad your doing ok keep thinking positive and you will get there ! don't be a stranger we still need your support !

    Elise louise HI hope your still doing ok !

    spfairy how you doing my friend seems there will not be many of us left in here all these BFPs hope we get one real soon too !

    Murraycod how you doing ? another day gone by one less to wait

    sunbeam welcome back sorry your not too good hope they sort you out soon !

    Matthews mum hi sorry you got BFN know how you feel we have to brush ourselves down and get on with another month ! for you hope you and I have the strength to carry on this long long road ! thanks for your info made me feel so much better hope your right !

    Everyone I missed sorry my head is like a seive must be my age ! hope your all doing ok and trucking along nicely,

    AFM well AF gone and dusted thank goodness and waiting now to do OPKs and will be making sure we get it right this month ! if it kills me

    Speak soon and keep SMILING

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    Ferrals, have emailed you babe XXX Cheers.

    All the geat girls who are encouraging me to think positive, thank you from the bottom of my heart, it is just so hard to right now woth all of this darn cramping!!!!!
    I hope it is a good outcome, just such long time to wait AAAGGGGHHHH!!!!!

    Promise I will be back later on for persies XXXXXXX

    Take care all XXXXX

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    Apr 2009
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    Murrycod- i had to private message you my email is not working we are on holiday down the south coast until sunday so this wireless internet thing we have wont let me email from my bigpond address but i did recieve yours stupid computer so check your PM box.
    Last edited by ferrals5; January 21st, 2010 at 06:47 AM.

  17. #251
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    Jan 2010
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    Hello Ladies..
    Just wanted to stop in and say hello..

    Hey RIC, i think u might be right about af next week.. first time today i started to get some major cramps since we lost our lil angel ...
    6 more days till i see doc ... i got a list of questions for her...
    '
    hope all is well with you all
    hugs to all!!

  18. #252
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    T hopes! I HAVE MY BREATH HELD FOR YOU. It is so exciting & scary for you. I don't know enough about the other science part of it, regarding thickness of the lining etc, but I have everything crossed for you.

    Ferals -good to hear that you're lurking.

    Murraycod - you are amazing.

    Kezzy - I am so sorry and saddened to hear of your loss. In my experience fear after a m/c is a part of any subsequent pregnancy. Each of us find our own ways to manage or mismanage those feelings. What has helped me at times, is honestly, taking a big deep breath and thinking, this is a new pregnancy and I am going to nuture and love my pregnancy and try to enjoy it. An then repeating that over and over. I suppose I learn to live with the fear. It's always there to an extent, and the only thing you can do about t, is choose how you will manage it. The other thing to recognise for yourself, is it takes a lot of courage to try again. So if that's the decision you have made, then remember that you have a courage and strength you probably didn't realise you had. Good luck.

    SPF - one of my fur babies has just been so loving and attentive today. Pretty amazing sense of intuition I reckon. The other two? Just off in their own little worlds.

    AFM - Don't worry girls, you can't get rid of me that easily! I care for you all too much to run away.

    It's the twins EDD today, and I have a weird sense of serenity today, which I didn't expect at all. This journey is just full of surprises. As I mentioned in an earlier post, DH and I are going to plant some trees today, a living memorial to each one of our angels. It was not a planned idea, just something spontaneous. It is just such a beautiful day today, and I am so thankful that I was blessed to have had the twins in my life, even if it didn't work out according to plan. They are a part of me and who I am, and despite the heartache and anguish, they each are mine. And today, it's nice to be able to be at peace with them and remember them, my precious little ones.

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