Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage or Loss Jan 2010

[eliselouise]

Dory a HUGE congratulations on your BFP. I know its very hard to stay positive about it but just enjoy it while you can and hopefully that for a full 9 months. Sending you very

[craftymummy9]

Hi everyone had a few pages to get through again !

Dory wow a BFP im so happy for you go girl and enjoy we are all here to help you through but its the result you have been working for and now you got it enjoy and try not to worry ! maybe your Dr will be able to give you more scans and so on to help you keep positive,

Ferrals love the footprints how sweet and small they are a lovely reminder of your little angel !

Murraycod I agree no news is good news keep us posted and enjoy your walk along the beach it always makes me feel sooo much better walking along the sea shore splashing in the waves !

Mummy of 4 hope you sickness is a good thing !

T- hopes have you caved in yet ? and tested

matthews mum lets hope you suprise them all that would be awsome for you !

everyone else hope your trucking along this TTC road with hope in your heart and result of a BFP real soon !

AFM well the last 36hrs for me have been just dreadful, started 11pm tues my DD4 and DD5 began to vomit all over the bed floor you name it so I was up till 3am washing beds and carpets and comforting them every time they went back to the loo to be sick again ! DH oblivious to all this was hogging the bed and snoreing his head off ! (men don't you just love them ) NOT eventually got to bed around 4am and slept to 7am to be awakened with dreadful tummy cramps and feeling really dizzy and sick and well then spent the whole day running to and from the toilet comming out both ends and feeling like I was gonna just die ! so managed to make it till today on nothing but water which keeps comming back and feeling really weak today and still nauseas but thankfully nothing as yet, so I have not had the energy to even think about testing and | figure even if I was utd the way I was yesterday there is no way it would have survived so I will just wait for AF to show ! after the last 24hrs don't think I want a BFP this month just hate being sick !

[Cookie36]

Crafty - I had gastro before I knew I was pregnant with KT. And my cousin had gastro when she was 30+ weeks. Don't lose hope!

[TinaR]

So here I am facing pregnancy number 5, but the 4th in the past 18 months. I am pretty excited, but also confused. The only outcome I have for my pregnancies is bereavement, and as much as I want to be positive, I have to battle hard against the negative thoughts and experiences that tell me this outcome will be the same. I have made a committment to enjoy the pregnancy, but it's a pretty constant battle to be mostly positive

Dory - Just want to say all the best - I too am in pregnancy #5 with nothing but heartache prior. You too will get to hold your bub this time. Not to say the next few months won't be without the fair share of terror! unfortunately early preg is weird...pains from all the stretching etc which of course always terrifies me! I had a few dashes to the hospital to get checked lol..feel free to msg me at any time!! I'm a goldmine of info at the moment regarding preg symptoms and scares lol (by the way - i am 24wks today so I am proof to NEVER give up hope!)

[eliselouise]

Craftmummy dont give up hope yet, i had really bad gastro about 2 weeks ago for 3 days and it was absolutely horrible. I was 6 weeks then and everything is still fine. Hopefully AF stays away for you and you get to see those 2 beautiful lines.

[TTCALoveChild]

hello Ladies and thanks alll...


Yes send all your Af's to me and Ric...LOL we really want them !!


Also Ric.. i know what u mean about the Putitary ;I have a putitary tumor which since u said that makes me think would that be happeing to me as well.. I been having lot more headaches and very tense ones to.. which i have pain everyday cause of that ....but not so tense as these have been... i got alot of questions to ask her when i get in on Jan 26 i sure do hope i can get them answered..
cookie36~ thanks im sure one day it will happen again

ferrals~
Yes it would be awesome going in and being pregnant again would be nice but i can be patience just not another 9 yrs..Eww

CONGRATS DORY!!!!


Good luck TTCer's

Hugs to allll

[ferrals5]

Ladies i am sorry to leave you all but i got an infarction or what ever they call it for the picture of abbi's footprints someone complained we can talk about it but cant show it so i will be leaving and finding a different forum i will miss you all and i hope you all get your BFP's i know i will i just have to be patient.


Thanks for everything Sandra

[eliselouise]

Oh no ferals that is terrible, i cant believe you cant post in here anymore. Hopefully i will see your post elsewhere when you get your BFP, dont worry ill be lurking everywhere until you get it coz you definately deserve it. Once again that is just so unfair. I wish you all the best of luck hun and lots of

[Inanna]

I just need to be very clear that Ferrals is very free to post on Belly Belly. It is her choice if she does not want to. I also understand that it can be confronting to be asked to remove an image of a much loved & grieved for child.

However, we have guidelines that have taken a lot of thought and time. One of them is that there is no images in posts. Most of you who have read the guidelines (hopefully you all have! ) will know this. We also have a guideline that images of passed over babies are not on tickers. The reason for this is because some women (& men) find it very distressing. Think for a moment if today you birthed your 20 week baby & came in here to be confronted with an image of those beautiful little feet? YOU might be fine. Some are not. I have received complaints from women who have lost babies at a similar gestation. Not that they do not like the picture - that it is just too distressing and confronting.

As a site we need to provide a safe place for everyone. Ferrals was given the option as is everyone of proviiding a link to her picture so everyone could choose to see this image or not.

Please understand that we have these guidelines to protect as best we can those that are grieving.

If anyone has any queries, concerns or feedback it needs to be via PM to either myself or another moderator. As a team we discuss decisions & concerns.

[murraycod]

Thanks for the PM Ferrals XXXXX
I started a new thread, just so we can all say thank you and let you know that we will all miss you. X

[Inanna]

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[ciara.e]

Sandra - I have really appreciated your support and understanding while i've been a part of this thread. I understand that you may be feeling heartbroken and torn because of how dear to you that gorgeous picture is, but i hope you won't be leaving us! I look forward to reading your posts everyday! If you do choose to go, I wish you all the best on this difficult journey of ours. I sincerely hope that your life takes a big turn around and sends you all the happiness you deserve! xx

ttcalc & ric - please! take my AF!!! LOL. I'm pretty sure she's lurking just around the corner

Sorry all, i'm a bit shocked by recent events so I won't get into personals. But Innanna, I do want to thank you for clarifying the guidelines. I understand that it's not easy to be the bearer of bad news. I'm just sad that Sandra has chosen to leave us. i feel like she's become a sister, or best friend.



Well today was a hectic day! I managed to get sunburn over sunburn whilst working hard on my vegetable garden. Oh boy, I did a lot of work in it today!! Then hit the gym tonight for cycle class followed by a swim, so I'm exhausted. Still no sign of AF just yet, but cervix is still sitting very high so until she lowers, I won't really know where I'm at (she normally lowers the day I get AF anyway).

Well, dinner time for me... had a late gym session.

Bye ladies!

[Inanna]

Thankyou Ciara & Murrycod it is not an easy job sometimes & I respect you greatly for honouring that. It is also difficult as I understand how precious these momentos are. However, we made the decision as a team of moderators and administrators some time ago to ask that images of this nature that could (& are) confronting to some are to be linked. This way a choice can be made by the reader.

Again, I understand well the honour that these images hold for Mamas (I am one of them too remember), but I also know well how painful they are to many others.

[Matthew's Mum]

evening everyone-murraycod-be thinking of you & your embies tomorrow,hope you enjoy your night with dh,sounds very romantic...ric-hope the blood tests can point you in the right direction...emmy-love the avatar..cookie-hope those levels are way down when results come in...craftymummy-sorry you didn't find a more pleasurable distraction...ciara-i'm exhausted reading about that much exercise,hope your able to sleep well tonight...ferrals-missing you already...inanna-sorry for the loss of your 6 precious little souls...

[hubba_bubba07]

oh my god.i cant believe what im reading.Ppl didnt have to click the link so whats the drama over??we are all like a family in here and comfort and support one another.We have ALL suffered losses and know the feelings endured.Good luck ferrals,although i dontpost frequently,i do get daily email updates and follow everythng you ladies post.

[~MummaBear~]

Hubba_bubba
there was no link Snadra put an image in the post.
Dont get me wrong i think it is a stupid rule and i dont agree that in our own little special section we are not able to put images of our little bubbas it is the Miscarriage and loss bit but it was the rule.
Anyways Sandra i really wish you didnt have to go, this place will not be the same without you supportive words and kind advice
and for what its worth, Abbi's foot prints are wonderful and just so perfect
XX

[dory]

Hey Ferals - I hope you don't go permanently, maybe just take a few days to chill? it would be really sad not to hear your words of advice and quirky stories and great sense of humour. This is a tough time right now for you, but you can get through it and hopefully with the help of your friends here. We've travelled some interesting times together.

What ever decision you make, may your journey be peaceful and that you get the outcome you desire, and thankyou for your words of advice.


Thankyou!!!!!! I have cried tears of happiness and wonder at your posts. They are exactly what I needed. Big hugs.

Cookie36 - in front of the mirror naked!

TTCALC - thankyou - I hope you don't have to wait either. Hope your headches get better soon? How long have you been diagnosed with pituatry cancer? It sounds so scary. I hope the levels sort themselves out and soon you and Ric are disappointed when AF arrives.....

TinaR - thankyou sweetie for the kinds words and offer of advice, and OMG - congratulations. 24 weeks is just amazing. ahhh I forgot about the stretching pains.... how are you managing? I might PM you. I don't want to upset anyone by waffling.

Crafty - oh bloss - are you feeling any better? there is only one good thing about gastro - that it stops eventually. I hope that you are feeling better, and that the bug didn't spread. Kids usually seems to bounce back quicker from it than adults do. I hope you got both gastro and MS symptoms together, but maybe that's wishful thinking? Oh the ob is very understanding and in previous pgs has offered extra scans, consults, ph calls, pretty much whatever I think will give me some comfort and reassurance. I feel that I am pretty lucky to have such an understanding ob.

Mo4- you're a bit quiet? what's going on? any more news on the pukies? or other symptoms? thinking of you and hoping. It was 8 days til testing on 13 Jan, which means yu are a few days closer to testing now... have you caved?

Emmy83 - Thankyou . I was really hoping with our symptoms we might have had BFP's together. I am sad that we haven't, and hoping your comes soon. Hopefully the next cycle?

Ciara.e - I tell you babe - at one level I am so jealous of all that exercise! I love exercise. I was so tired yesterday I thought I was going to puke and faint. I don't do either very often. For some reason, pg just knocks me around. Exhaustion and fatigue are my constant companions. Yet usually I am pretty active, a lot like you. So even though it sounds a bit like a complaint its not, it's just that the thing I miss most in pg, is being able to exercise.I can't even really muster a decent walk at the mo. SO can you enjoy it for me and tell me about what you do? I will be an exercise junkie through you. I might try a swim on the weekend..... sory about the wisdom teeth... painful, I had 4 extracted in hospital. How did yours come out? Try not to be too frustrated, but i know how hard it is\.

Elsielouise -I hope so too for a sticky pg - how are you doing? recovered from that gastro. ewhhh, 3 days worth.

T- hopes? How you doing? It was thursday yesterday.......

sunbeam - how are you doing? going gently on yourself? have you been back to work?

Ric - thankyou. Its exciting for me. I am starting to be more excited. Hey, I am glad you went to the Dr and got all that stuff tested. It must be driving you insane. Can you let us know what the results are? shared knowledge is power. \

Mathew's mum - thankyou. Your words were so kind, and I always love reading about you and how you're doing. I love your stories about Mathew. I remember being worried about fragilty too. You're such a good and protective mum. I like the idea of the family heirloom christmas stocking, what a lovely tribute. How hard it must be to try and explain m/c to kids. You are amazing. It's so sweet that your DD worry themselves about the future of any pg, and as hard as it is for you it's good that the ask questions.

MURRAYCOD - I hope you didn't get a phone call and that you are on your way to Adelaide for ET ( or was that happening yesterday?) OMG - I am so excited for you. It represents hope, and I hope you do one cycle and get a BFP in 2 weeks. presaries. hmmm, like you sai, the things we do. I have heard a lot of good things about repromed in Adelaide and hope you have a good experience with their staff but more than that, that you have a BFP and sticky pg. Are you allowed to use your treadmill after ET? Do they recommend acupuncture before and after ET? And as always your advice is spot on! You are also so thoughul to remember others. WOOT WOOT - nice to see you guys splurging at a nice hotel and a walk along the beach. I have a great mental image of you doing that and it makes me smile.

Carrie.ps - how you doing? You've not written or a while. Thinking about you and Eden.

Snugglybean - almost home from Japan? Your trip just sounds like the best. I am so happy for you.


SPK - one of my fur babies, just came to say hello as I typed to you. Must be a kindred cat person thing! So big purrs to you from Arthur cat ( he's part grey burmese)
Oh the other two are snoozing in the same room with me, but I didn't notice because they weren't snoring. Well one of them Oliver snores more loudly than any person I know ( well not quite but almost) and snuffles and snorts in his sleep. Vet is not too worried about it. None the less I love my little snuffler cat. Anyway, how are you doing?

AFM - thanks again for helping me find my smile and positive mojo. And finally I had a good sleep and feel pretty good this morning. Have a good day ....