Welcome Chickybabe sorry for your loss i also have three boy's and am trying for my 5th baby i lost my daughter in march and believe me when i say i was devastated and heart broken that it was my first girl and i thought i'd never move on unless i had a girl but after finding out we carry a genetic fault and have a 1 in 4 chance of every baby being affected i don't care if i get a boy or girl as long as i get a healthy one it is hard when you know it is going to be your last baby but i hope we both get our wish and our dream's to complete our familie's come true.
October babies - I was also thinking January babies. In our Belly group there has been spectacular angel flight. It worries me; by the time we can try again it will be an October due date - eeek!
Hey Coco, just call cherished Chez. She loves it. (you do, don't you chez?)
The great news here is that my cycle is back to normal. I'm pretty sure, anyway. I had post d&c bleeding, (tmi) all tissuey and gross, but it stopped after two days and then 3 days later I got more AF-like bleeding. Was a bit concerned at first, but just went with it. It went for quite a while (9 days, I think)
I didn't pay a lot of attention, since we can't start trying again anyway. But then I had some interesting CM last week, so I thought I'd pop the info into FF. Saturday night I had ovary pain, so I had a wee look, and the dates totally corrsepond with my normal cycle.
A complete waste of all those lovely eggs (lol!) since we can't start trying again til January at best, but it is SO good to knwo that we're back on track. It is one less thing to worry about! Also, if it stays nice and regular, I will be fertile two days after we get the all clear! (assuming, I know, but it's been going well so far)
It's so nice to be excited about my girly bits for a change. I'll have to give them lots of positive reinforcement...
DH's cousin recently had a baby - he was unnamed for a week. They hadn't thought of any boys names because they "so badly wanted a girl" He was born 5 days after we lost our baby.
Even his great grandmother expressed her disappointment, saying she really would have liked a little great granddaughter (already has a great grandson)
I sat in a corner, thinking "I know how hard it is not to get the kind of baby you wanted - I really wanted one with a heartbeat, but it wasn't to be"
I have no issue with gender swaying - I think it's great fun. I have issue with loving a child less because it wasn't what you wanted. This was their first baby. Not the fourth after a line of boys. Their first. WTF?
Sorry girls, I'm not usually this ranty. Something about this thread...
Hi Natty and Chickybabe. I'm sorry you have to join us here but I hope you find some comfort amongst us.
Snugglybean - I can understand people being initially disappointed when they have another one of the same gender (Mum said she shed a tear when her fourth daughter was born) but only very briefly. That's quite a strange reaction.
Coco - your Mother sounds like a real attention seeker. I'm sad she's not there looking after you like she should be.
AFM - I'm at day 30 and AF hasn't arrived. My cycles are very irregular. I could have one anywhere from 27 days to 35 days. I tested yesterday and got a negative so I'm trying to hold off doing another test until Thursday which would be 14 days after when I think I ovulated. I've been getting a lot of period like cramps so I'm not so hopeful.
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SnugglyBean - you have every right to feel that way.
I have wanted a girl since day dot - and for some strange reason always just assumed i would have one. With each boy i have wanted that girl a little more but dont get me wrong - i love my boys and wouldnt have them any other way but i cant help the longing feeling. Being that this will be our last bub (when and if it happens) we just decided to give it our all and try to help the little girl spermies along.
Probably wont work - trust me - i am not at all confident !
I really hope you get your forever baby soon.
I am sorry if i offended you.
xxoo
Chickybabe-i don't think you offended anyone deep down i want a girl to help with the pain i feel it would be the icing on the cake but after being told of the horrific abnormalitie's abbi had i just want a baby with 10 finger's and toe's and all put together like nature intended i was going to find out the sex of our embryo's once they are tested and choose what i wanted but have since decided the best looking embryo is the one we will go with good luck with trying for a pink one it will be fun trying and interesting to see if it work's
hi to our newbies, this is the place to be to heal, rant and then be rejoiced with when you finally get that BFP. It's so supportive and being there for each other I have found has helped me to stop focussing on myself and feeling completely alone and upset.
Coco: I too am happy to come 'talk' to your mum. so cranky on your behalf!
Ferrals: I'm hoping that your feelings are not being to battered at the moment. Am thinking of you xo and hoping you get a girl when you do the ivf.
Chickybabe: hi! hoping for a pink bundle for you as well. DB and I would also like a girl, but after losing 4 bubs I will be happy to make it full term with a healthy bub
Snugglybean: I can't understand that type of behaviour. All of us here would be so happy just to have a bub that these people who can have a hissy fit cause they didn't get the sex they wanted...grrr
Hi to everyone else, to many to do personals for all
AFM: RB has left the building and DB is damn happy cause he has been left out in the cold for a week lol...its part of my plan to keep him happy to bd when I need to...WHICH..I am pretty certain I am actually home when I O this time I'm so excited - I think this is my month! and I've got about 34 tests to use when its time
ttyl
Hey ferral babe and chicky 4 (let's mix it up a bit!)
I'm not offended at all by you guys. I think you deserve some pink! But to not be prepared for a boy because you didn't want one, that's a bit wrong. And for their first baby. And the same week as we lost ours. I used to really like this particular cousin. But now I have joined the rest of the family's ranks, and am completely nonplussed about her existence.
Snuggly Buggly - Thats crazy ! At the end of the day it wouldnt matter how many boys i had i would never be like that. Just happy to be pregnant - especially with my first. Some people are unbelievable !
Well my TWW is up tomorrow (AF is due) but on saturday my SIL lost her 12 hour old baby boy, born on his due date...its soooo sad....really kinda hoping I get a BFN tomorrow.....I really wouldn't want to do this to her
Anyway good luck to all those trying and grats to anyone with a BFP (havent had time to read through) I think I'll be taking a little break.
I am watching Knocked Up...it is SOOOOOOOOOOOOO not how things happen!!
I also have been sitting on the loungeroom floor folding 2 garbage bags of newborn clothes into a vaccum bag.... It was...bittersweet. No tears, but DH came and gave me a big hug and massive smoochy kiss...
then he said he likes the baby rocker I bought (for those who missed that, I bought a rocker for $15 from a garage sale, and a 3 wheel jogging pram at the same place for $10), I said I felt silly about buying it now and he said "why? we'll be pregnant soon!"
So sweet....I have had a yukky day after my mother was in contact earlier so him being that way towards me and indulging me in my baby fantasies really helped me feel a little better...
Now Im on the lounge with Coco (our ragdoll cat) on my arm/lap and just laughing at this movie It's so real but so fake haha I love it!
Hi nat Sorry to meet you under such awful circumstances.. heres hopeing you will fall again soon and have a little brother or sister for ur lil angel to watch over, and that way he can make sure they get through happy and healthy..
I feel for you and what you've been through.. No one deserves to lose a child.
Hi to everyone else joining us (even tho im kinda sorta new myself haha)
AFM-=- after i had my misscarriage last year i got an email a few days later from a gf in tazzy, telling me she was pregnant, and she was as far along as i was supposed to be too.. Well last week she had her healthy little boy, and sent me some pics of them all together.. I always thought when that happened i would be sad, but i wasnt, i thought he was adorable and that she looked like such a deserving mother.. It made me miss cub, and wish i could have him/her back, but it didnt give me any bad felings towards my gf, i was so hapy for her.. and her lil baby boy was just precious.
Im bout a day or two of the big O so ive been pestering Hubs like a frenzied whore lately HAHAHA!! So hopeing this is our month so we can finealyy start to feel better about everything, and hopefully i can try to relax a bit and not stress to much about negative things,,
Well good luck everyone and sending my love to you all..
toomnayshoes I am so sorry to her about your nephew. That is so very sad. Don't stress about getting a BFP - you don't have to tell her straight away. It will be bittersweet but a little bit beautiful.
I watched Knocked Up when I was pregnant - SO stupid, but a little bit funny.
So much for my resolve to wait until Thursday. I took a test this morning. Negative I thought, but then . . . there does seem to be the faintest of lines. If you have to hold it up to the light to see it does it count?
Last edited by India's Mum; August 11th, 2009 at 10:00 PM.
SammyP - When i got my first BFP i had to hold it in the light to see it. It was so faint my dh and i decided it wasnt a line but there was colour there. The next day it was even darker. I would suggest testing again tomorrow morning!
I'm 12 DPO. I keep getting the test down from on top of the fridge and having another look. I hid it there in case anyone comes over and accidentally sees it. I think it might be positive. I can see it a little better now.
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I'll have to give them lots of positive reinforcement...
evening ladies....
hi to our newbies, this is the place to be to heal, rant and then be rejoiced with when you finally get that BFP. It's so supportive and being there for each other I have found has helped me to stop focussing on myself and feeling completely alone and upset.
so cranky on your behalf!
for you.
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