Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - June 2009

[Janie]

Hi everyone,

I thought I would pop my head in here to introduce myself and say hello to you all. We have just started TTC our second child, our beautiful DS is just two. We have had two miscarriages, one before conceiving DS, and one earlier this year. I am 11 or 12 DPO, and finding this end of the TWW very hard. On one hand I am busy chasing around my toddler and don't have much time to think about it, but on the other hand I am finding myself a little stressed about it, as my body isn't really playing ball ATM . Too many weird things going on, and I wish I would just get a +HPT or that AF would arrive, not this seemingly endless waiting!

Anyway, I look forward to getting to know you all

[Anila]

Hi janie, im sorry for ur loss hun, i wish u all the best in the last few days of ur tww, i hope u get a very sticky bfp, the ladies here are very lovely.

[Sunbeam]

Hi Girls ,

Hi ZacsMum- sorry to hear about your loss. My m/c was 6 days after yours. I ovulated about 9 days ago, so several weeks after the m/c. I know it can vary considerably for everyone and I understand the frustration of wanting to start TTC again straight away. Hang in there.

Hi Janie- sorry for your loss too. This is really such a great thread with such an amazing amout of loving support. Are any of the wierd things your body is doing good symptoms? Have you tested yet?

Anila- I'm feeling for you hon. What dpo are you at?


Hi to all my other TWW buddies, come on one of us must be due for a BFP soon

[LittleOnes]

Hi to all my other TWW buddies, come on one of us must be due for a BFP soon

You'd think so wouldn't you? mine's looking like a bfn I caved and did a test this morning and of course it was a bfn and was an early test. AF is due today and I don't really feel anything like it's going to hit but the stress of it all is making me such a horrible person and could also be delaying AF.

Oh, this is just too rich - Sunbeam, I hear you loud and clear on the FF charting!! I've just input today's temp and FF is now saying that I have possibly O'd two days ago on CD26!!! Mind you, that's with only charting temp from CD11 so it's possible that's when I O'd and this is a triphasic pattern happening now.

Hi Janie & Zacsmum, I hope your stay isn't too long and Janie, hope you get that elusive bfp in the next couple days!

Anila, sorry to hear about your bfn. I'm feeling it too hon. After two bfps in here last month, seems wrong not to get any this month so bring it home for us coco and sunbeam!

Hi to everyone else hope you're having a good day.

ps. if I'm 3DPO, I'm so getting a bfn.

[ferrals5]

Morning ladies
Well i'm feeling a bit deflated today, my DH was to tired to dtd last night which was the day i was supose to ovulate i had a temp drop in the morning and both my opk were a strong positive so we went out to dinner and had thai food i had a few jd's and when we got home watched a movie and he fell asleep on the lounge i woke him and he said let's go to bed im tired i said tonight is an important one and he said i'm sorry there is always next month i'm tired aswell and we aren't getting any younger i dont want to wait until next month but i just rolled over and said fine he said we would do it tonight i hope it won't be to late i havn't had ov pains yet and my opk are still a strong positive (4 days in a row now) but my temp is up slightly so we will see we dtd the night before so i hope the little wrigglers last long enough and if we dtd tonight as i dont think i have ov yet i hope we catch that egg anyway sorry to winge but im p####ed off.
when doe's opk go back to negative after you ov as mine are still a strong positve a asume a havn't ov yet ( im confused)
Anyway sorry to hear there is no BFP yet but if RB has'nt shown his face there is still hope and to the new ladies i want to say welcome i'm sorry for your loss and i hope you get the support you need here and get your BFP soon.

[Jaffaz]

Hi Ladies,

Many thanks for all the support and advice. I'm off to see my natropath on Tuesday so hopefully she will shed some light on my crazy BBT chart.

Ferrals4 - Don't lose hope, I had a very similar situation the month I conceived my DS (now 2). We were TTC for 15mths and I was charting. When I told DH that I'd O'd and we had to try he said "he didn't feel like it". I was so so angry. The next night we had a long talk and made up (lucky we did)!! So good luck for a bfp this month.

[Sunbeam]

Hi Ladies,

I was hoping to get on and see some BFP's flashing but none yet . I tested this morning and but not surprised, totally not feeling pregnant. Coming down with a cold now too which I can't take anything for "just in case" so feeling pretty s#@t.

Smallfryplus- I conceived my last pg on 25dpo but it is not unsual for me to o quite late. Is that heaps late for you?

Ferrals4- sorry dh not feeling up to it but it sounds like you've dtd every other day which should be enough . The two months I've used OPKs I got strong positive 2 days then it was back to negative after that. I had o pain on the second positive day.

Still hoping for some good news from someone

[TinaR]

Hi all,

Sunbeam - its great to hear that you have someone so supportive and helpful in your life, between the two of you you should give the child you are to be blessed with all the love in the world.

Ferrals - I vote that next time you take the girl out, it'll strike a blow for all of us lol. fingers crossed that your dtd works for you this month.

SmallFryPuss - fingers crossed you get your BFP, its heartening (even if slightly upsetting) for us to hear someone elses great news.

KM1 - I've been lucky and always AF about 30 days after MC. I have my fingers crossed you get a BFP soon.

Milly5 - If you need to then cry, it is amazingly healing. I've currently got 4 preg at my work, the latest announced my first day back at work - that of course led to last wednesdays spack out

JulesWA - splurge on yourself. it feels great if yo ucan beat down that little voice! And you deserve it.

Zacsmum - Welcome to this group of amazing women, sorry for you needing to be here, but there is no greater place. Fingers crossed you get good results and do not need to linger.

Maddison - I read your last post and it slipped my mind - i am so sorry...,like everyone, I have my fingers crossed you receive a beautiful BFO that you can share with us all.

Anila - I have my fingers crossed this is the only AF you have after MC and that in the next month you get an amazing BFP and can dtd for fun

Janie - Welcome, yes the TWW sucks but that BFP is totally worth the wait.

Dear BF and I r dtd each night...he seems keener that I am to get me back into that state, it makes me feel completely loved which is nice for a change! My MIL came and spoke to me today...her daughter was killed (my SIL) in August nearly two years ago, so horrid. She has struggled. I didn't want her to know I MC but she saw me while I was home and her talking had me in tears and she found out. Today she asked how I was doing...then burst into tears saying she is so sorry that she hasn't been there for me but she feels she has nothing left to give after she survives each day. it was probably the most honest conversation we have ever had.
I bought 15 HPT off the net the other day - they sent me 40 by accident. Am happy to share some if anyone is interested.
Hope those testing this long weekend get :BFP: and that in about two weeks I get mine

sweet dreams all

[Anila]

Evening all my beautiful wonderful lovely ladies

Sunbeam, Smallfryplus, ferrals, ZacsMum, and TinaR and a special hi to any one else i missed.

I am wishing bfps on everyone here

cd 34 no af and no bfp 16 ish dpo

We had Baileas birthday party at hungry jacks today and one the mums asked me if we are having anymore kids, and of course i just blurt out we just lost one a few weeks ago, and the poor mum had a look of "i put my foot in my mouth", and i felt sorry for her she wasnt to know. So then i felt bad for saying we just loss one and i dont know why i bluted it out, but thats me and my big mouth.

Wow tina, u got lucky! Lets hope u dont need all 40 and u get ur bfp after the first 5!! Cause u have to use the first 4 for testing too early, lol.

Sunbeam, sorry u got a bfn hunni, i wish ur outcome could have been a more positive one, i am also comming down with a cold, so not looking forward to having af with a cold.

[KM1]

Hi everyone,
Welcome Janie, good luck with your BFP!

Sunbeam and Anila I am soooo sorry about your BFNs- am hoping maybe it was too soon to come up BFP?...but if not then maybe I can be in the TWW wait club with you guys and we all get better news next time (I am slowly stopping bleeding, but this happened before and I started again so not too sure what is happening)

I think its a long weekend over east but not here in WA- hope everyone in the east enjoys the extra day

[Anila]

evening km, i do hope the bleeding really does stop for u this time, and i would love to be in the tww with u, just wish af would show up so i can stop that this is my month, i have some weird owy pains going on i just wanna get it over with.

[ferrals5]

Morning ladies
Well i'm definately out of the running this month DH was to tired last night to i did a 10 hr shift and got home at 12:30 last night and i didd'nt feel like it either but i was willing for a quickie to catch that little egg but DH got the s###s and said he was sick of the stress the temp taking the opk and the BFN all the time so we ended up arguing about it i'm the one that doe's all that because we are not getting any younger and i don't want to miss a chance when we might have to try a couple of times before we get a baby that is not effected with a genetic abnormality my biological clock is ticking my boy's are 16 13 and 11 and this was something that he asked of me when we got together and then after the death of abbi i just wanted to be pregnant again and all he say's is there is always next month i feel like giving up it is to stressfull every month i'm sorry for no percies but i'm not feeling to good today anyway i hope the time we did it on day 11 & 13 was enough but i doubt it FF say's my ov day was 14 but i think it was day 15 as my temp rose that day i think we might be stressed about wed if we get the results and they are bad it will kill me.
I hope everyone is well and im praying for your BFP i will catch up with you all later

[Sunbeam]

Hi Ferrals

Sorry you are feeling low today. I can't imagine how stressful this all is on both of you. We all have the TTC stress but with the appointment coming up on wednesday you must both be feeling the pressure. Plus with the move, working long shifts and having other children to care for that's a lot on your plate, makes me realise how easy I have it. Not much I can say to help except try to look after yourself and to send you a big hug I have everything crossed that wednesday brings some brighter news for you.

[LittleOnes]

grumpy as hell. No AF.

Sorry... will calm down and come back later.

[Anila]

awe sorry for the bfn smallfry.
huggys to u and sunbeam and espesially ferrals.

[LittleOnes]

Hi ladies,
Sorry for this morning. Having a big grumpy day time today. Been trying now for 8months and 4 days to get pg and each time a bfn comes up it gets more frustrating. I know you're all familiar with this concept and thanks for tolerating me!

Ferrals - you may not have missed it. 'They' say that the little wrigglers can survive for up to 3 - 5 days. You may have caught it. Only 2 more sleeps til your geneticist appointment. Thinking of you.

Sunbeam - sorry for your bfn. And yeah, for me to O as late as FF is telling me is very unusual. I have a strict 28 day cycle so now that I'm sitting on day 31 tomorrow I'm convinced that either stress has been a lot higher this month and thrown me out or I'm pg and too early to tell yet. Have decided that I'm not doing another test til next weekend (assuming AF doesn't come that is). So far no AF feelings.

Anila, thanks hope you get resolution, preferably with a bfp.

My sis and I went for a reflexology massage this afternoon. I needed it. Feel a little better.

To all the sweethearts, hello, good luck and good evening... I'm afraid I'm too down and tired to say much else tonight.

[ferrals5]

I'm back
And DH and i made up today twice (lol) even though it is most likely to late but you never know anyway it made me feel better i explained to DH that i feel like if i get pregnant it will help ease the pain and every month feels like i'm getting older and it will be harder to fall pregnant he said just be patient but when i go to work and i am surrounded by pregnant co-workers it just reminds me of what i have lost i just want somthing positive to look forward to.

Sunbeam-thanks i feel like i am on auto pilot sometimes i have to put on a face and act like i am fine i have to be ok for my family and my boys need there mum but inside i just want to to scream at people and tell them i'm not ok i don't want to move on i want my daughter back but i just keep going by keeping myself busy the stress of these genetic test's is driving me insane i just dont know what to do i want my life back to the way it was but i know that is impossible now.
I'm sorry if i'm going on and on anyway sorry that you diddn't get your BFP yet but it might be a bit early hang in there

Smallfry-i'm sorry you diddn't get your BFP this monthbut as i said to sunbeam maybe a bit early thanks for thinking of me for wed i'm scared to death of what they are going to say

TinaR-40 hpt cool i hope you wont need them all if you dont mind me asking where did you order them from.

Janie-welcome to our little thread

Zacsmum-thank's i think my DH is just tired he doe's 12 hr shift's but he thinks we have all the time in the world i tell him when i'm fertile and the egg can only be fertilised for eprox 12 hrs so we need to bd for those day's if we want to increase our chances cause it's not just about us getting pregnant we lost our daughter due to genetic abnormalities and we are in the process of finding out if it will happen again so each pregnancy we will have to have extensive testing at 10 -12 weeks and if that baby is affected we will have to terminate and try again so that's why my clock is ticking but i'm crossing my fingers we get some good news on wed

Km1-i'm glad the bleeding is settling down for you after a m/c it can take a while until your cycle goe's back to normal

Anila-I hope those pains are implantation pains

well i suppose im in the tww now this is the bit i hate

[Cherished]

Hi girls,

Just dropping in to have a moan about what has been going on with me for the last 3 days... Bleeding started on sat, gradually getting heavier, today I am pretty sure I had a mc I can't believe it. I've never had a natural one before as that last one was a D&C so I don't really know what I was looking at but from what I saw on the net I am pretty sure it was the embryo ***SORRY*** TMI*** if anyone feels like they can chat with me about what they saw when they mc please pm me.

I had bloods taken today and have got a referral for a scan tomorrow but after passing what I think was the embryo I don't have much hope.

I can't believe this is happening I should be happily 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant... I am numb