Trying to conceive after Miscarriage or Loss May 2009

[Counting Days]

arrrrrrrr of this charting giving up coffee taking vitamins standing on your head etc what load of crap
I am so sick of it does not work anyway

people get a BFP every day from smoking drinking taking drugs etc and their pregnancies and babies are perfect

ENOUGH maybe we should all live a little stop all the crap and being so obsessed , who knows we might actual get a BFP too

[Anila]

Evening everyone!!
ok silly question but what is rb, im assuming its like af?

Well if my cycle stays the same after the mc then i will o in aprox 7 days, so hope hubby will wanna dtd then with out anything.
Have had a very busy day today, so doubt ill get any bd tonight, and grace has a dance comp tomorrow so will have to get up at 5.30, so ill be so tired.

sunny09, i hope you are feeling better after your shopping trip, hugs hunni.


Greenslw, keeping my fingers crossed for you, and i have been caffine free for just over 2 months,

milly5, i hope af stays away.

ferrals4, i really do hope you get ur bfp hun, and good luck with the houses.

edt- hey counting days, i agree!

[ferrals5]

Anila-i'm not 100% but i think rb means red blood i think as some people get spotting around implantion and period time so red blood means that AF is here correct me if i'm wrong girl's or is it rotten ***** LOL

[Anila]

Thanks ferrals
I figured it had to do with af, just never heard it on here before. lol

This may sound silly, but even though i am so keen to get bd again and get my bfp, im also a little scared as i really dont wanna mc again, iykwim.

[ferrals5]

Anila-I'm terrified to get pregnant again as we still dont know if my hubby and i are carriers of the same genetic fault we have to wait until 11 to 12 weeks for ultrasound to try and detect any abnormalities as abbi had many and she was our first baby together my boy's are to my first marriage and he has a daughter to his first marriage we are waiting for DNA testing to see if it was a one off fault or if we are carriers which means we have a 1 in 4 chance of it happening again

[Sunny Love]

rb=rat bastard to me

[ferrals5]

Sunny09-LOL yeah that too!

[Cherished]

Hello girls Sweet Jen Jen made up that 'he' was RB (Rat Bastard) if your period showed up unwanted.... And 'she' was AF if your period showed up if it 'was' wanted.... It is confusing for for anyone else out of this thread.... I am often about to type RB and stop to think 'hang on a minute, no one will know what I am talking about'

Ferrals I had a temp drop this morning, don't have sore bb's or any nausea and am not feeling very confident... I'm feeling pretty down about it actually.... RB away tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I want to be a family

[Cherished]

ok now I feel like I am getting God dam RB

[ferrals5]

Cherished1-aww i'm sorry you feel that RB is comming i have no clue what's going on with me i did a test this morning a BFN still could be a bit early as i didd'nt get a BFP until the day before i was due when pregnant with abbi this morningi had a horrible metalic taste in my mouth and i'm getting light headaches but my cervix is really high and my temp is still high so who know's

[Greenslw]

Counting Days, you are so right. I guess after a loss you just want to do it 'all' by the book, but in the real world you're right people, smoke, drink, take drungs, get pregnant the first time they have BD. Not fair but I guess my choices are because I'm older and more of a control freek.

Anila and other I agrea about being scared of MC, I guess thought statistically we should be better off, although all the 'what if's' spring to mind.

I always thought RB was regular Bleed. but I could be wrong. I don't get RB but can get AF after a cycle. But you all made me with your replies.

cherished. how's things?

Ferrals, do you know what the metalic taste means? I had it a while back also like medicine.

By the way, I think oderless fish oil is a farce! no it doesn't taste like fish going down, but geeze it does burped up............

DP was in a mood today, he's on the war path with my sister in law, who is a pain in the preverbial most of the time but I'm in a zen mood, just letting it all pass over me, too much else on my mind. But My DP is very angrey, she butted in last weekend when DP and I were having one of are normal stiring moments and took it a bit far, now he's demanding an appology and she's being stand offish. AHHHHHHH children hay...... My poor mum, I should spend time with her but I'm so tired I really can't hold meaningful conversations for long.....

8 more sleeps till BT

[ferrals5]

Greenslw- the metalic taste is supose to be a sign of pregnancy i had it with one of my boy's but not the other two or abbi.

The more the day goe's on the more i feel i won't get a BFP as i'm so irritable and a sign of RB( as everyone call's it ) is comming so now i feel miserable that i have to listen to all the pregnant one's for another month and feel the pain of losing my girl.
I'm off to work finnish at midnight so will see ya's all tomorrow.

[Cherished]

Hello girls Sweet Jen Jen made up that 'he' was RB (Rat Bastard) if your period showed up unwanted.... And 'she' was AF if your period showed up if it 'was' wanted.... It is confusing for for anyone else out of this thread.... I am often about to type RB and stop to think 'hang on a minute, no one will know what I am talking about'

Greenslw not sure if you caught this post of mine? Thanks for the wave... I'm ok.... pretty down today. I really wanted to be pregnant :cyring: I'm so cranky too..... Poor dh! can't wait until tomorrow just so I know if RB has arrived... Up until today I was great though (thanks for asking)

[Greenslw]

Poor Ferrals, what yucky shifts you do? I'd be so bad at those shifts, so anti social. Thanks for the info on taste. Who knows what anything means.

Yeah Cherrished I saw your post, just adding my 2c worth Cring Cranky, not nice is it. but glad DH is there to take it out on, better someone you love than road rage. (another story)

I think I'm getting addicted to the net.... not a good sign, but I guess there are worse things to do with my time. I am studying online at the moment but being the wonderful multitasker that I am, study in one window BB in another email in another. Watching Basketball behind me.... AHHH it's monday tomorrow. bugga.

[milly5]

Hello ladies!!!

RB - Rat bastard - very funny!!!! I like that one. Seriously though, I thought it was "red baron" for those who think that only a man would be that horrible, and "Aunt Flo" (AF) sounds too sweet for when your peeved. But Rat bastard fits that bill much better. LOL.




Oh god, I did that stupid thing where I typed the code word thingy in the title!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL And it won't let me delete the title!!! no wonder it didn't work the first time. What the hell is "ladoga" anyway???

[Anila]

hmm ok so hubby had a few wines again tonight and got randy, so we bd, yay, so i couldnt help myself, and had to ask if this ment we are ttc again, he said, he doesnt want to call it ttc, as he was so devestated by the mc, he said it hit him harder than he thought it would, so he said we will just dtd and see what happens.
so basically we are ttc, we are just not making an effort to take notice of cm and o etc..
well he wont be, but i will be, lol.

[Sunbeam]

Hi to everyone,
This is my first BB post though I have been reading your messages since the day after my last miscarriage ( I literally sat in bed with my laptop and read posts from 9am till 4pm it made me feel so much less alone). I am a single gay woman TTC my first child. I know there is a forum for gay and lesbian parents but I would really like to be a part of this forum as I have connected so much with your words have have gained so much comfort from these pages over the last few weeks, I hope you will feel it is okay for me to be here please let me know if it's not.

I lost both my babies on Anzac Day a year apart. It is now 3 weeks since I lost my second precious angel baby but it still feels like yesterday, in fact it feels worse I think I was sort of numb for the first few days and still on painkillers after the D&C. Even putting the little angels on my signiture made it feel more real and reduced me to tears.

I am now charting again and using my OPKs since my HCG went back to zero last thursday. I really want to try again before my next AF as reading post from other women who conceived in this time really encouraged me. Right now my temps seem to be a bit all over the place so I'm not sure my body is back to normal. I've had problems with my o's and it often skips a month or two. I was taking clomid when I fell pg the first time but even up to 75mg really did nothing to help. My FS now wants me to use 100mg but my dr and naturopath are keen for me to hold off on the clomid to see if the extra herds and suppliments do the trick. I'm so confused which way to go, I just want to be pregnant and then hold my forever baby in my arms.

Sorry for such a long first post just lots on my mind (and heart).

[Cherished]

Sunbeam The more the merrier in this thread... Gay, straight, black or white, we are all going through the same thing I am so sorry to hear about your losses. I can't offer any advise on herbs, suppliments or drugs but I can tell you my story... 4-3 years ago I was in incredible pain during my periods and it ended up being at any time throughout the month... Dr's thought it was endometriosis and were about to operate... God only knows what would have happened from there... What I decided to do was a parasite cleanse and a liver cleanse (both from the book The Cure for All Diseases by Hulda Clark) I can't emphasise enough how much this helped me The liver cleanse alone was totally insane! Anyway I also started regular chiropractic visits, massage and I continued to get colonic irrigations (had those for years also unbelievable what they have done for me)... I also got all of my amalgam fillings replaced with white ones, had acupuncture for hormone balancing and generally decided that 'health' was my #1 priority! I did all of this and more for about 18 months than started ttc. We got pg on the 1st cycle of charting (4th cyle of ttc) but we m/c that one in March. I started ttc again straight after and my chart actually looked good (it's on the link in my signature) and this cycle looks the best I have ever seen for me including my fertile mucus... I have never had so many fertile days in a row! I think Bowen may have stimulated this???? OR apparently the D&C can acutualy be good for ttc as it cleans everything out so you have a clean slate o to speak maybe that is what has caused such fertile mucus? Either way I was expecting AF (I have 30 Day cycles) today but instead my temp is back up so I still have hope. I hope some of that helps

ferrals4 What's happening with you today? No AF for me (very surprised!) but still fell really down.... I just don't feel pg like last time TIme will tell, hope tomorrow my temp is still up! I was looking at the chart gallery on ff and many peopleget a bfpon CD11 so I might test tomorrow providing RB stays away!