juleswa - I'm so sorry for your loss I think the D&C is a very personal decision if your caregiver is not recommending you go with an option and leaving the decision up to you. I had a missed m/c at 12 wks and my ob was happy for me to do either too, but I went for the D&C because a) I was scared of going through the whole process and what I might see b) I didn't want to wait for what might be weeks afraid to leave the house in case I miscarried in public and c) I have a DD to look after and didn't want her seeing me miscarrying and wondering what was wrong with Mum It was a difficult choice to make though and I struggled with the thought of it, and I wouldn't have wanted to do it if my DH hadn't been around either. But it is a choice only you can make, I think if you are unsure waiting is probably not a bad way to go - don't make any hasty decisions that you might regret later on. Take care.

Smallfryplus - Welcome, the ladies in here are a wonderful support

Jen - As always, thanks for thinking of me hun It was a sad day yesterday and still feeling it a bit today too - at least I have DD at home on holidays to give me cuddles

Mel - Good luck with the car, I'm sure you'll love it I've got my eye on the new Foresters, very noice!

everyone else!