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Thread: Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 2007 #2

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    Hi all!

    Just wanted to say a big thank you for the warm welcomes and encouragement! Trying to catch up on who everyone is and where everyone is at!

    Leyla - thanks for the advice on FF, I've got the free lessons coming through and trying to make sense of it! I guess it will all 'click' when af arrives and I can actually start tracking properly!

    Tinsel - thanks for the lovely welcome! A BIG contratulations on your BFP!! How exciting for you and sending you loads of sticky vibes!



    Bekz - thanks too for the welcome! And a HUGE congratulations on your BFP!!! Wishing you a healthy and sticky few months ahead!!

    Sharon19270 - I am hoping I managed to work out FF once my next cycle actually starts! Hoping that this is your month, sounds like your body did the right thing by you!

    Bun - just wanted to send you a big hug, I really feel your emotions and hope that time will heal it with a beautiful baby soon.

    Satya - I'm so sorry you are going through what you are too, so hard when either having to explain it to people or having to be confronted with other people's pregnancies while the loss is still so raw.

    Because of having PCOS and irregular cycles, I have no idea when AF will come, I know some people get their cycles back relatively quickly after a m/c, but not sure if the PCOS will play a role in it taking longer. I'm all stocked up with OPK's, DH got some zinc and has started taking it, and I've got FF all set up ready to go. Knowing my luck my FS appointment will come before AF..LOL! I know are chances are better with another FET, but part of me still hopes that we may be able to conceive naturally while my body has recently been pg.

    Feeling all emotional again this week, and a lot of my pg friends have not spoken to me in weeks....maybe because they don't know what to say given their situations, but it hurts to be avoided. Such is life

    Hi to anyone I missed, not being rude, just trying to work everyone out still!

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    Tinsel and Bekz.... WOOOOHOOOO sending all the sticky vibes your way. Glad to see you will be leaving this thread!

    My temps are still low 36.1 On CD18 (i think) If this month i don't get the BFP I will have to start temping down stairs.

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    Congrats Bekz & Tinsel - woo hoo - enjoy the next 9 months !!
    Bun - I really feel for you at the moment - you have been through a lot. I often think "isn't it enought that I have lost a baby, why do I have to wait so long to conceive another...." & thoughts along those lines. We just have to have faith in the big guy upstairs & that he will deliver us our bubba's when the time is right. Maybe you could look into some kind of relaxation/ meditation that you & DH could try together. Also, have you tried the alternative therapies route? Anything to help feel you are getting that bit closer to conceiving a H&H bub. Don't put pressure on yourself though, do what feels right for you & make sure you keep communicating with DH as we often forget how hard this is on them as well....
    Hope all you other lovelies are fine & plodding along nicely. Who is going to be the lucky no. 3 announcing their BFP? Good luck to all!!!

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    Bekz and Tinsel, that is so EXCITING! I really hope those BFPs stick, stick, stick. It's great to hear some good news here - it keeps us going. I think I O'd on Friday but we only managed to bd twice last week - Sharon I don't know how you had the energy to do 3 nights in a row! Good on you girl. Hello to everyone else and welcome to the new girls. I have only been here for a month and I feel so much better having the support of everyone here and being able to talk about all this stuff.

    Tonners

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    Bun I think if you feel like you want to ttc then go for it, and maybe do what mummyto1 suggested and both of you do some relaxation together.
    saltprincess I never actually wanted a xmas baby, but if i'm due on xmas day I'm not gonna say no. As for not being able to get in to see your Ob until after you O would totally suck, I know that after my D&C I was sent out my bill and an appointment date for my checkup so I didn't have to ring and make the appt myself, could you ask them to put you onto standby so that if someone cancels you can have their spot?
    Herbie I think 3 days in a row of BD is definitely too much, dh and I have been together nearly 20 years and if it wasn't for ttc we where lucky to dtd once a month LOL as for the products from Lullaby Conceptions they usually get posted out the same day your payment goes through, so if you pay by credit card they will be posted that day and it all depends on how long it takes for mail to get to you from Sydney.
    *las* no need to apologise for missing anyone in the personals I know I still do (unintentionally) and I have been a BB member since August 06 (?) and you will probably find that the reason your pg friends aren't calling you is because they don't know what to say to you, maybe they are waiting until you call them when you feel you are ready and able to cope with seeing them pg :hugs:
    jenjams I find downstairs temping much more consistent.
    Tonners the only way we managed 3 nights in a row is because I made dh pace himself, he literally told him not wear himself out on Friday as he still had another 2 nights to go

    Have a great day everyone, BBL for another chat.

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    Thanks everyone for your congrates. I am not going to announce anything "offically" for a while. I will go to doc next week and get some bloods etc. oh yeah and going to the loo and wipping obession has started already!!!!!!

    SP - You poor thing regarding your Ob. They should make you a priority, especailly since your Ob told you to come back.

    Bun - I agree with mummyto1 maybe relaxation will help you. If you are both tense feeling than this can manifest into physical problems and it can stop what you really want to happen. At first when you do the relaxtion you may not feel relaxed but after doing it a few times you will start to feel better and your mind will start to focus on positive things. Another good thing to do is massage. Hope this helps. I am getting really concerned about you.

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    I just want to start by saying how fantastic all you girls are. It is truly awful that you have all had to go through such an awful loss or losses and each and every one of you are just so lovely. I don't know how I would have gotten through the last few months if it wasn't for you girls. I really do wish better things for all of you.

    BekZ - thanks for being concerned about me. With so few people IRL aware of what I have been going through, it really does help to know that people are thinking of me and understand how I am feeling. I am so so happy about your BFP and really hope, no, I know, that this will be the sticky one you have been after. My psych has given me a relaxation CD to listen to everyday (although I haven't had time in a couple of days), and techniques to help me relax. DH is not impressed with the idea of doing it with me, although I have tried! Do you know anything about macca root? I found some vitex the other day (thanks for writing about it - I would never have found it otherwise), but I didn't end up getting any - thought I would talk to my RE next time I see him. I have been taking Mega B for the last three months which was recommended. Do you know anything about it?

    Herbie - you can pay different amounts depending on when you want the package to arrive. I paid the smaller amount and it was supposed to take about 7 days but I had my package in 3 days!

    mummyto1 - I have thought about alternative therapies, but am really not sure where to start. How is the clomid going? I wish my specialist would put me on it - hopefully after this cycle it will be apparent whether I need it or not. Do you find that it makes you O earlier or changes your cycle? My cycle is too long and irreg and with the m/cs I keep having, I can't help thinking this is the problem, so I really want it prescribed to me. I just need to convince my specialist of that!

    Sp - how frustrating about your OB appointment - I would be so annoyed!!! I don't really have any advice to give you, but I feel your annoyance. Maybe they can squeeze you in if you keep hassling them. Do you think you will start TTC anyway, even if you can't get in? I don't know what to do about testing next time - the pg symptoms I get are so strong that I know I am pg anyway, and I feel that I should find out for certain so I can begin to eat/drink, etc, like a pg person so my bub has the best chance at being healthy. I think we will try again this cycle, but I am not holding out much hope for a sticky bub. I didn't test til 13DPO last time and got AF 4 days later, so maybe next time I will try not to test until I am a few days late? If I can hold out that long.

    Of course, I am still feeling down, but getting there. I told my mum about the latest one on the weekend and she didn't have anything to say. I suppose there isn't really anything to say, but I really didn't feel supported or any better having told her. People just don't understand. I am also extremely upset about my friend who is pg. She has been lying to me for three weeks about it, and I mean telling me stuff about fertility appointments and that she doesn't expect to fall for another few months, etc, and all along she has been pg! I am so very hurt by that. She and her DH are the only people we really talk to IRL about our difficulties and I am just so upset that she has been lying to me. We usually see them and look after their kids all the time (they live up the road), and now I can't even bring myself to talk to her. I know I shouldn't blame her - it is their decision when they tell people, and it is v early, but they have known all about our problems, and about our pgs from the v beginning, and I would expect that she would turn to me if something happened with her pg, not just not even tell me about it. I know it's silly, but I am almost as hurt by this as I am about our latest loss, and both having happened in the last week, I am really struggling. And I am not even mentioning how hard it is going to be seeing them all the time as her tummy grows when my babies just die.

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    Thanks Sharon, Bekz, sara & saltprincess. I'm actually doing really well. Most of the time I'm feeling great, just the emotions kick in every now and then.

    Congrats to Beks & Tinsel hope both bubs are of the sticky kind.

    Las - must be extremely frustrating with the irregular cycle & PCOS. I've always been extremely regular so I can't imagine how annoying that must be when you are TTC.

    Saltprincess - try and be patient about the appointment. Doctors work very slowly with fertility issues anyway it's not likely to make any difference. You are right that they don't seem to care. The trouble is they don't really show any interest in you until you have had either 3 mc or have been trying for over 12 months. They just expect you to relax and keep trying, seemingly having no clue how difficult it is to do that.

    Bekz - I feel for you with the wiping obsession. I'm soooooo sure I will have obsession too the next time I get pg.

    Bun - try to keep your chin up. Try to not test until you are about a week over then there's less chance of disappointment. Start living like you are pg now and then you will not have to change your behaviour or diet when you are pg and therefore not need to know so early. If you haven't already done so make sure you stop drinking coffee & cola drinks. I read on a naturopath website (one that specialises in fertility issues) that there's something in both that can lead to mc. I'm not sure if I've mentioned this in this thread but also try to cut out transfats as this is now believed to cause infertility in some women. I can tell you what types of things it's in if you want to know more about that. Often dietary things like this can work for women when modern medicine can't help.

    As for me, I've had a positive day today, a really hard day at work so I didn't have time to dwell on anything. No tears or sad moments so I'm hoping they are a thing of the past... only time will tell.

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    Bekz & Tinsel - YAY!!!!!!!!!!!! That is such fab news... I'm so happy for both of you! Both my TWW buddies getting BFP's! Unfortunately I don't think I will be able to make the hat trick, but I have not tested yet. Just a feeling. I'm actually a little scared to test. Might work myself up to it later in the week if my temps stay up. Anyhow, sending loads of positive thoughts and sticky vibes your way!

    Bun - Honey, I wish we could all come and give you a big group hug! It is awful when you don't feel like anyone understands what you are going through, especially when its your mum and BF. Just remember that everyone here cares about you and knows at least a little bit of what you are feeling. You can always get your thoughts out here at the very least. I hope things start to turn around for you soon. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Anyhow, sorry I don't have more time to do personals. Hope everyone is well and happy.

    love

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    Congratulations, Bekz and Tinsel, on your BFPs!! Sending you lots of *sticky vibes*

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    Leyla - I thought AF was on her way too, your chart looks pretty good. Fingers crossed

    Well I am thinking positive atm, but every now and then I get a twinge that AF might show up...Stay away,please!!!!

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    Thanks for the congrats and sticky vibes - I think I will need them all. I still won't believe it until a few weeks and am trying not to worry and give myself extra stress. I have a retched cough from my cold last week and I feel like I am going to cough the baby out! LOL.

    Leyla, your chart looks really good and I am getting excited for you to test. Last time I was pg, I got a BFP 11dpo but this time it didn't happen until 15dpo so I have everything crossed for you.
    Satya, I am really glad you had a positive day today. One day at a time sweetie.
    SP good luck TTC this cycle. I say go for it and I know what it's like not to concentrate on anything else. Try not let those stinkers at the Ob's get you down. I hope they can squeeze you in.
    Shan thanks for the advice and I remember that next time.
    Sharon I hope you Od on April Fools and have that beautiful xmas bubby.
    Bun :hugs: It is sad that your mum wasn't supportive and I know how you feel. Mine had 4 m/c so I thought she would understand out of everyone but she didn't ask me once how I was doing. Luckily I have the best stepdad in the world. I kind of understand where your friend is coming from but only as I got my BFP today. I have a friend who lost her baby at 24 weeks in January and it is going to break her heart when I tell her I am UTD as she is still grieving. I also have another friend who has been TTC for 12 months and she will be sad too. After everything you have been through with your friend, she should have told you. I am glad you post here and you pour your heart out to us. I really hope things start looking up for you. You deserve it.
    Herbie, I am hoping I won't have AF pains for the next 9 months. Fingers crossed its a sticky one. I hope your pain eases up. Lullaby Conceptions is fantastic and I get my packages in 2 or 3 days.
    Las I hope your cycle returns soon. It sounds like you are well prepared. That's not nice of your pg friends. I hope it works out soon.
    Jenjams I hope your temps work out this cycle.
    Tonners I hope you caught that eggie.
    Phew, I have typed this up while watching All Saints. Catch up tomorrow.

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    Ooooh I'm excited by those BFPs girls. Congratulations! Time for a new thread. You can find it here.

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